2006-12-09 12:05:52 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
21? I'm afraid that this is not the case of "changing his mind" -because this he won't change probably.. Do not worry!!! World should be tolerant - especially his closest world...
And - you know, it doesn't mean no chance for grand children:)
2006-12-09 12:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lady G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably not, distressed mother,
he is a man now and has made up his mind enough to approach his parent(s) then he is serious. This may be hard for you to understand because you are not familiar with it. there are those small chances that it could be a phase, but more than likely not. usually those phases are when you are younger, in high school and experimenting.
the best way to get over that lack of understanding is educating yourself on it a little. what we dont know, we fear and that can make it difficult to carry on a mother-son relationship.
please remember if you can at all, try not to loose what you have with him because of what he chooses to do in his personal time. be open to him and be there to support him and stand behind as a mother, because this time more than any time in his life, he will need that.
2006-12-09 12:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by nonyerbusiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if he is 21 and admitting it now, then he has obviously harboured these feelings for sometime. He didn't wake up and just decide to be Gay, he was born that way, and your job as his Mom is to accept him as he is, because that is what he needs most in this harsh judgemental society that we live in that is so quick to condemn people for this. The fact that he has admitted it to you takes a lot of courage, especially if there is a chance of losing the love of his Mom.
2006-12-09 12:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not but he is an adult and has probably know this himself for quite a while. Be accepting and supportive. Hope he finds someone to love and share his life with. The world has changed a lot but it is still not easy, being what others think as different.
2006-12-09 12:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by j.m.glass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Doubt it. I have a brother and sister who are both gay and they knew it when they were younger. they are still gay today after many years later. so i wouldn't bet on it. the best advice to give you is to love him and support him no matter what.
he is still your son and you need to let him know that you love him the same. there is nothing you can do to ever change his mind and in doing so would make matters worse.
2006-12-09 12:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by Gina 7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son has told you that he's gay im sure that hes positive about his sexuality and wont change his mind down the road. It must have been really hard for him to tell you and im sure that he is 100 % Positive that hes gay. Why else would he tell you if he wasnt sure?
2006-12-09 12:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Vanessa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly. . . he could be one confused kid. I would sure hope so. The gay culture can be an extremely strong hold on many people and they will swear that nothing will ever change them, but it is also one of the most hurtful and damaging culture ideas in society. God did not make your son gay. . . that's for sure. He chose the lifestyle. In that respect, he could change again but it is obvious that something in his past moved him that direction. Only he knows what is was.
2006-12-09 12:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He won't change his mind b/c you are either born gay or born straight but you don't figure out which one you are until later in life I think that you should talk to him make sure he is sure and let him live his life
2006-12-09 12:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by Kay♥™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that by his age he is very sure of his sexuality, most know by the time they are teenager's, so he' not likely to change his mind.
At the end of the day he is still your son i hope that when this all all sunk in you'll still love him for who he is.
2006-12-09 12:15:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let Him be
You cannot change him. He never chose to be gay it is in his mind.
My best friend is a lesbian and I never knew that till we were friends for about 3 years.Feelings about her changed especialy when I was around my boyfriend with her present.
Her mother tried to 'help' but failed. We are still firnds apart from the fact that she looks at me in a creepy way
(no ffence to gays)
2006-12-09 12:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋