she has said it before and i wanted to break up and let he be with the person she liked but she started crying and told me how much she loves me even though she still continued to eat lunch with him everyday. Now she likes the manager at her job and told me after i had to hound her to tell me what was wrong with her.
I love her so much and want to marry her but this is twice now and lately she expressed her need to go out with friends more but in the past i always encouraged to do so. I don't know what to do because I'm trying to correct what ever went wrong in our relationship but she just doesn't call as much anymore, or want to see me as much, and when she used to tell me she loved me I felt she meant it now its just a statement that I don't know if its true. I feel like shes doing more than what she tells me. She didn't even call me last night as usual to tell me she got off from work and then called me at 1am to tell me that she and her friend were out riding last night.
2006-12-09 11:57:36 · 21 answers · asked by downonluck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also we have been together for 2 1/2 years
2006-12-09 14:00:47 · update #1
Well if you are smart and you beleive there is more going on than what she is telling you,then you need to just end the relationship.Sounds like she is just stringing you along.Dont settle for being second best.End the relationship and move on to better things.
2006-12-09 12:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is confused and you guys need some time apart. I know you love her, but love is best experienced when the other person treats you how you deserve to be treated.
Your girlfriend doesn't seem to love you as much as you love her and she doesn't know how to let you know. She is holding on because she feels secure in the relationship but that is only going to make things become more and more sour.
I suggest you call your girlfriend and let her know that you have decided to give the relationship some time. Don't necessarily wait for her to come back, however. I know it's hard, but you really deserve better. Good luck.
2006-12-09 12:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, relax. that's common, women human beings consistently are pushed by latest infatuations. What you need to do is frame of mind her about the problem. Be very calm, no longer aggressive. this can insure that she isn't intimidated and could be worry-free. Ask her if she quite does like this guy, and if she does, why. tell her if she may particularly leave you and be with this new guy. or you need to be oblique and only attempt blending issues up. She may only be bored, and yearning exhilaration. Take her someplace she hasn't ever been earlier, and be very confident! Make her sense that she doesn't opt to look elsewhere. do not only throw it away, in case you adore her, then its nicely worth it. And relationships are framed round paintings. you need to attempt, with a view to construct a competent captivating bond. good luck.
2016-11-25 01:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously doesn't like you as strongly as you like her, and doesn't value you or the relationship the both of you share. She is not satisfied with you in some way and is looking for someone else she likes more and will eventually break up with you. Don't give her that satisfaction. Don't let her treat you like a doormat, let her go. Trust me, you will not be happy with her if you stay - she will just make you insecure and miserable as you will be home wondering where she is and who she's with and what's she doing. Leave her, and then you'll find a girl who really loves you and doesn't go for joy rides in the middle of the night to party with her friends and play with your feelings like that. You deserve better, don't let her "alligator tears" keep you tied down to her, she obviously doesn't like you enough.
2006-12-09 12:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Angie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me its time to break up with her and move on. As for the cheating aspect of it I would think shes cheating. You seem to be a very nice, sincere person who deserves better and should be able to trust your partner no matter what they are doing or who they are hanging out with. It sounds like you dont trust what shes up to. Go with your gut instinct and do whatever makes you happy but personally i would just leave it alone now and move on. Do you really want to marry someone who you cant trust or is always interested in someone else?
2006-12-09 12:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a clean break and move on, she is playing mind games with you and doesn't deserve your time and effort. There are lots of fish in the sea, and just imagine what would happen if you did marry her. Find someone who is worthy of your love, because she obviously not. Lingering in this relationship while she decides who she wants to be with is only going to get worse, and it will drive you batty.
2006-12-09 12:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. Let her go, and move on with your life. What's a relationship if you can't trust someone. It's better to be hurt now, than to always wonder where she' s at or what's she's doing. She was riding alright, but not you.
2006-12-09 12:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, that sucks man. To be honest I would just move on. It sounds like she is too immature to know what she wants and she needs time to play around a bit. Try to invest more time in yourself and things that you like to do. That will help you stay busy and might get you in a new crowd of people. Doing that will either get her to realize what she had, or introduce you to someone more suited to you.
Sorry to hear it though, I know it isn't easy, but first and foremost be good to yourself!
2006-12-09 12:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to be a tough road for you, but its time to go shopping. It sounds like she wants to part ways. Don't let it get you down. Let her go, and find another commitment. If she has told you she likes somebody else, and is out "riding" around, she's not being at all honest with you. If she is dishonest now, it won't get any better with marriage..........Find yourself a nice present for the holidays...
2006-12-09 12:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by Speedbuggy43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ditch her man, it seems that you and her don't share a trusted relationship, who knows if you stick with her long enough maybe she might start to bang other guys in secret. Besides if she really loves you then she would respect you and stop flirting with other guys
and if you do decide to ditch her know that there are other people out there that are better, so in my best wishes I hope you find true happiness
2006-12-09 12:02:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋