We met over the summer and we had a brief but sweet affair. The problem is that we live 700 miles apart from eachother. He told me he would call and keep in touch. I am always the one to initiate phone calls. I stopped calling and he never called. I have visited my family 2 times since summer and I always see him. He's told me he loves me and that he doesn't regret meeting me. We continue to hang out, but then I have to leave him and my family to return to my home in the Midwest. He still continues to not keep in touch. What am I supposed to think. Does he only want our relationship to exist when I am there? I am confused and a little hurt by all of this. Should I say anything to him about it? Or should I just forget about it and let what happened last summer be just a summer fling.?
2006-12-09 11:47:39 · 30 answers · asked by n3rdluvr2001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say just let it be a summer fling. I'm sorry and it's horrible that it has ended up this way, but if has never tried to keep contact with you, then he obviously doesn't care enough for you to keep him in your thoughts. Move on and next time you see him, let him know how he has hurt you but that you have moved on and are done thinking about him. In fact, maybe bring a new boyfriend home next itme. That'll show him!
2006-12-09 11:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by #1 Buckeye Fan!!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you then you wouldn't be the one initiating contact all the time and he would keep in touch with you. Sounds like you answered your own question - he only wants the "relationship" to exist when you are there and when you leave he wants nothing to do with you. I have a book on my bookshelf called "He's Just Not That Into You - The no-excuses truth to understanding guys" By Greg Behrenfdt. It's a great read, pick it up. It snaps us women back into reality who think actions like this from men are normal or acceptable. It basically says a man will do whatever it takes if he's really into you and really wants to be with you. Move on!! Don't see him when you go out there anymore, he doesn't deserve you - even as a "summer fling".
2006-12-09 11:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar situation, only thing is I was the guy that was accused of not calling enough. I can't speak for your guy specifically, but in a general sense I can say that some times when you don't call it is not because you don't care about the other person, but rather, when you are so far away, some times just talking to the person can make you miss them more than you believed you would. But of course it is your call, the only people that know how special it is are the two people in the relationship, and no one else can tell you what someone else feels. Which ever way you go, good luck.
2006-12-09 11:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Smoove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he only want the relationship to exist, when you are convenient for him. I don't think you should hurt by this, it sounded like it was a summer fling, from the start. The ball is in your court, at this point. I wouldn't forget about the past, because it sounds like you have great memories of it. Don't let the present ruin those thoughts. Take life day by day, and you might be surprised by him. It sounds like he still has interest in you, but not right at the moment, maybe due to a job, or another business commitment.........ps... don't wait for him, let him come to you, go enjoy another summer fling for now!
2006-12-09 11:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by Speedbuggy43 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was he worth your while? Why do women always think it's their fault when men don't call back? Don't you understand that there are a lot of dumb guys out there who make us feel special?
Listen to me, if a person does not call it is very obvious that they are not really interested. It's not your fault it's not his fault, it's just the way it is. Don't dwell too much into it and just up and go. Summer affairs can be really romantic and passionate and people wish they would last forever. Sometimes it happens, most times it doesn't. Most our lives are not the notebook film ok. You feel bad because duh, it's not nice being ignored specially when someone's been so close to you. But this one thing is really true for almost every human being: you'll get over it, sooner or later. For your emotional protection, make it sooner. Go out with friends, have a good time, it's xmas, don't overspend though. Make yourself busy with important things and you'll heal quicker.
2006-12-09 12:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by LumiereLady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pretty hard to keep those long distance things alive.
And it does sound like he's not really very honest.
If it were me I'd rather not be hearing him say"I love you" when I'm there and then nothing when I'm not. I can see why you would be confused.
I think if you can keep your head about him, see him and still see others and not mourn your time away from him then continue. But I wouldn't expect any kind of committnment from him and I don't think he's being "faithful" to you.
Try to keep some perspective. I think the distance is just too far to expect much else.
2006-12-09 11:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about it and let it be a summer fling thing. Move on. Im sure he was just using you while you were in town for some fun. Who knows maybe he dosent keep in touch because he has someone else or even worse, married. Nothing to be confused about, hes really not that into you. Sorry for being straight forward not trying to be rude.
2006-12-09 11:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok how old are you? if u are still very young 700 miles is VERY far even when u r older for that matter. He enjoys your company...he really does but might not see the point..if you never see him again, it will be too soon. Find someone in your city to go out with..I had a gf..i always initiated the phone calls and on msn messenger...i would see her on occasion...she lives in the u.s..i live in canada..about an hr away by plane. When we would talk "i love you" and then nothing..were not 2gether anymore, it might wotk with you but if this has been going on 4 a while already then..well....sry...
2006-12-09 11:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you're a teenager...ummm...yeah...i think you should let it just be a fling, but keep open the possibility that you two can have a relationship if you two end up moving within a close distance of eachother...but...in my opinion...don´t cut off from him...stay friends but look for someone else in the meantime until you two can actually be together physically for more than just some visits:)
2006-12-09 11:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is without doubt priceless. I gave up my school schooling & talking to my household for the girl I cherished. I selected my happiness & being along with her over the longer term I had earlier desired. We had been in combination for sixteen years and I do not remorse having given up the matters & desires of my formative years. The reminiscences of what we shared greater than outweigh what persons feel I misplaced. I could under no circumstances have end up the individual I am at present if it hadn't been for her.
2016-09-03 09:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋