Ok guys, seriously... I have been with my girlfriend for over 9 years, not married, just together. We have a 4 year old child together. Anyway, tomorrow there is a children's Christmas party. Well here's the thing, a big football game is on tomorrow. I KNOW family comes before football anyday, but I have to been all of my childs' parties', events, see her everyday, etc etc and for some reason she is hanging this over my head. She says that it's "sad that I think football is more important"... We don't live together and I help her out with our child everyday. I told her there's the game on and I wouldn't feel comfortable being there. Anyway, I would NEVER miss an event for my child, but there's a game on and I would not feel comfortable. She's making me feel very guilty. How do I react to this???? I have missed out on games before for my child but don't know what to do about this??
2006-12-09 11:40:52 · 11 answers · asked by aj lewis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would not feel comfortable at the party as is I don't know anyone. I told her if she did NOT want to take her by herself, she could stay with me. But she says she's "fuming mad" at me
2006-12-09 11:42:33 · update #1
Hmm...not married....together for 9 years...have child together, but don't live together. Do we have some commitment issues here? Oh, I think so.
You're whole life is based on daily justifications and rejustifications. I feel sad for the child. What kind of a dad does she really have?
No, dude, you don't need to go to the kid's Christmas party. I'm sure that you'll find some way to make it up to her - or, find a way to justify not making it up to her. Either way, you'll eventually feel OK about it.
Self-justification: the answer to life without having to deal with those annoying principles of right and wrong.
2006-12-09 11:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel uncomfortable? Is it because you are not married? Or do you have difficulty with social situations? Or is it something else? Whatever the reason, though, family definitely comes before football, and this is coming from a diehard Green Bay Packers fan!
Think about your child. Children only grow up once, there are no do-overs. Bring your camera and have some fun. Who knows, you might find other guys at the party that feel the same way, and you can all sympathize with each other about missing the game.
2006-12-09 19:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by chris_in_columbia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it is important to "train" your girlfriend to allow you some space/time for yourself. It sounds like you're generally sensitive to the issue, and supportive, but when guys do everything for a while then women will sometimes expect too much. Plus I agree that only one parent should go to a kids party, unless you both know a lot of adults there. Just alternate and take your child to the next party alone, and give your girlfriend some free time.
2006-12-09 19:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Julian A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mad. You only get one chance to be at these things. Your child will be older before you know it. No thaving a parent at a birthday party can totally demoralise a child.
Forget the girlfriend, this is for the child. It's a game, for Gods' sake. Are you really willing to make your child think they mean less to you than twelve strangers kicking a ball?
2006-12-09 19:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by Wonderpants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you can miss out on one event...Its not as if its ur child's birthday. If it was then its a good idea to not miss it. But its just some christmas party, so its not so important that you can't miss it. I think that your child would be okay without her father or mother there. Just don't miss alot of stuff in your child's life though...
2006-12-09 19:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by Trinity Balthazar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the party. Something could happen there that you will regret missing for the rest of your life.
Yeah, sure, you'll have a picture of it, but you'll feel better if you experience it for yourself.
As for the game, unless it's a playoff of some sort, you can always record it and watch it later.
2006-12-09 19:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by lyoskowitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll just have to miss your game!! Mister i'm 13 and I would be mad at you to, that's also why you have to go, since you don't know anyone, you could meet some other guys who were forced to come along to. And then you may be able to meet them at hangout and have a beer at the bar like you guys do.
2006-12-09 19:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by Pecabo G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Record the game on TV and go to your child's party. Or you could watch it on www.youtube.com after the party.
2006-12-09 19:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i can say is for you to try to think of it the same way she is. i understand that you missed all the other games but believe me you can record the game but you do not want to miss any precious moment of your childs life . sorry i coldnt help more. merry xmas
2006-12-09 19:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by kmm840 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man your outta luck I'd just miss the game Nagging not worth it
2006-12-09 19:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by eradicater2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋