I hate to be mean to them.
2006-12-09 11:39:56 · 11 answers · asked by Me! 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
This is a touchy and difficult situation. My husband has a cousin who is this way and when he and his wife come to visit they never know when to go home, this is why I hate to see them come over. Usually they come over when I have to get up early and go to work because I am not lucky like my husband who has weekends off. Anyway, I hate to be mean or rude to people too, but I will usually start dropping hints around 10 or 10:30 and if that doesn't work atleast by 11 I just say, sorry guys but I have to get up early and I am going to bed, see you later. My husband then entertains them until they go home. Hope this atleast gives you some helpful ideas. LOL
2006-12-09 12:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by cass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if they came for a long or short visit.
If your guests arrived for dinner, or lunch, and have just been sitting around drinking coffee for hours, they probably don't realize you have things to do and want them to leave. Try clearing the table and wrapping up conversation, or saying things that imply you're very busy. If you can arrange for a friend to call and disrupt, you can say it's a very important phone call and you're very sorry, but you can't attend to them anymore. If you are married, with children, one can 'have a crisis' at an opportune moment. The best thing to do is just hint that it's getting late.
However, if you have company staying over at your house, you can drop small hints that you have a busy life that you're neglecting, or that they're becomnig a slight nuisance. Or, you can always do what they did in colonial times when a guest was overstaying his welcome: leave a pineapple in his room. Good luck!
2006-12-09 19:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by toobsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Martha Washington (wife of President George Washington) had a wonderful way of dismissing guests that I am dying to try on a particular group of people that we are "obligated" to have over in the near future.
At the end of a meal or evening Martha would rise and announce, "the General retires promptly at 9 (pm) and I precede him, good evening." I love her!
2006-12-09 20:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your room, put on your PJ's ...lol In the old south, they had a custom, when they cleared off the dining room table, the hostess would place a pineapple in the center piece I heard, that meant you don't have to go home, but you can't stay here!
2006-12-09 19:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad is blunt an says he is going to bed an he will an people look weird at us . when he has gone to bed. i always tell them if they live close that i am tired an if they want to meet up for some coffee in the morning to talk some more id love it but i am super tired an need to sleep
2006-12-09 21:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at your watch, start stretching and yawning and say " Goodness look at the time, bedtime already"! If that doesn't get company to leave then just go to bed. lol
2006-12-09 21:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Diana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yawn ,then say well were going to bed ,thank-you for coming over & walk to the door & open it with there coats in your hand,maybe they will get the hint.
2006-12-09 19:45:44 · answer #7 · answered by fuckyou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i just tell them to get the hell out if they are friends, but im pregnant so that is ok, haha. im not sure what the most polite thing to say is, depends on why you want them to leave. do you want them to leave beacause its late, or you dont like them or what?
2006-12-09 22:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by heidi s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been wondering this same thing for years now. I have in-laws that never leave.
2006-12-09 19:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by ohiomontana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say, "We were planning on having a romp this evening and unless you care to join us..."
2006-12-09 20:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋