well, i told him.."thankyou, but i am not interested.."....LATER, HE CALLED AND SAID..'i have a pizza for you...blah, blah, blah,"...i just said.."oh, no thank you, i have ALREADY EATEN TONIGHT.."...Later i wrote him a NOTE...A NICE NOTE SAYING..."i JUST LIKE YOU AS A FRIEND...I AM NOT INTERESTED IN ANYTHING ELSE, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH"...then i did NOT hear from him...and i was relieved....BUT YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BELIEVE THIS....3 weeks later he called three times...i did not answer the phone because i have caller id...TELL ME WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH HIM?????
2006-12-09 11:37:18 · 14 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The most important thing is that no matter what else happens, if he poots on the floor you must get rid of him!
2006-12-09 11:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hard to know. I'm in my 40s, too, and have dated fairly recently. I've had confusing (and slightly irritating) interactions. I've found the best thing to do is be very straight with him, treat him with the respect you would like to be treated (for example, if you had become a little giddy over someone and said and did a few stupid things), and make your boundaries VERY CLEAR. It sounds like you gave him mixed messages at first, because you said you wanted to be friends, but now you're not answering your phone. If you really didn't want to socialize with him anymore (and it's okay to want that) it would've been best to say so.
I really wouldn't write any more notes, unless it's an email to backup a phone or in-person "please don't contact me again". If you get to feeling like he really won't respect your boundaries, you may need to tell him that.
In truth, it doesn't matter what's the matter with him. Take care of yourself, knowing what's the matter with him is his job. If he cares, often it seems the other party does not.
2006-12-09 19:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you.But..... if you say you like him as a friend what is wrong with you talking to him. Or do you think if you keep talking to him he will miss read where you are coming from and start believing that you like him like that.Well, if thats the case tell him you like him as a friend and you have a man that you like and he cant keep calling you like that.( it dont matter if you have a man or not ) just tell his nusanice @$$ that. Good Luck !! And by the way anit nothing wrong with him, he,s just a nusance.
2006-12-09 19:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by ellie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ,as you say, you like him as a friend, then what is wrong with him calling you. I call my friends and expect them to answer the phone when i call. If you do not wish to be friends with him you should have told him that.
Jesus, what is wrong with you people? See this is why men are so screwed up. You say you want to be friends but when the guy calls you dont answer and youve even got one lady saying call the cops if he calls again.
2006-12-09 19:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. You said you just wanted to be friends? But you don't answer the phone when your friends call?
If he's talking trash then he's just a "horny old grandpa" , but if he talks about friends, family, books, movies, Shoot! even politics or religion then he's a lonely guy who wants or maybe NEEDS a friend. Someone he doesn't have to pretend he's strong or can just be himself.
2006-12-09 19:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by Daystar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are strange like that they have a nasty habit of clinging to you even though they know they don't stand a chance. I say you tried it the nice way so if he keeps bothering you simply tell him off that you're not interested in anything not even a friendship.
2006-12-09 19:40:12 · answer #6 · answered by selene 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you must be totally hot that's all i have to say about that and he wants u real bad, i still dont know how u had the strength to turn down the pizza, but that's me
2006-12-09 19:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you do to make him do that? How did you meet him? He does not have any confidence in himself and you are a convenient target for him. If he is at a point that he is stalking you, then the authorities have to become involved.
2006-12-09 19:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by sk20007623 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lady don't get sprung over that man he is probley useing you know that pill for middle age men so when he saw you his horemones got hiper if you know what i mean so thats why he keep calling you he want's some action
2006-12-09 19:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by priceness45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's persistant. But if your serious bout not wanting to go out with him, next time he calls, tell him that you will call the police if he doesn't leave you alone.
2006-12-09 19:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋