I had started to get very interested in a guy who is very sexy and cute. We live long distance until I move home next month.
I found out that while he and I were iming, he was also iming a friend of a friend at the same time and asking her for quickie unprotected sex in the middle of the night (They had never even met or talked before)
I told him I was taking break form dating when I found this out. My friend was mean and let him know that he was exposed as playing a lot of angles at once.
What's really nuts is, I still keep thinking about him and trying to rationalize away him asking for anonymous booty call with one girl, while talking to me like he was all sweet and innocent at the same minute.
Smack some sense into me before I do something idiotic and contact him again !
2006-12-09 11:35:55 · 13 answers · asked by Leea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My friend and I are certain he was dead serious about wanting sex with her at 2 am at her apartment. He kept iming her and asking her home address.
2006-12-09 12:03:18 · update #1
He will tell you anything to get keep you on the string.........Find you a real man. He is a loser and a player. He will hurt you bad before it's all said and done. Don't put anymore of your heart on the line for him. You will be glad you walked away. You can already see the writing on the wall.
Think of the future with him. you are heading for a break up before your even together..................Good luck and best wishes.........HC
2006-12-09 11:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This may not be what you want to hear, but truth is the truth. Gotta deal with it. Like everyone else, you need to quit thinking with your happy place and use the head on your shoulders. Think for a moment. This guy is cheating on you. If he cheated on you once, he will do do it again. On one hand, can you blame him? After all, you two have some distance between the both of you. On the other, if he was serious about the relationship as you are then he would invest some time in cold showers and porn rags.
This is the reason why long distance relationships rarely work. Especially the distance part. It is hard to creat a close bond between the two of you sense you never physically meet. Another thing to think about is the fact that since you two don't meet on a regular basis, how do you know he is 100% straight up with you? Do yourself and your dignity a favor and fins someone close by. You will be much happier for it.
2006-12-09 19:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First question you need to ask yourself is what are you looking for right now. You always need to know that before you get involved in any relationship. If you are looking for "long term" this guy has already shown you a big red flag! If you are just trying to get laid this guy is the perfect candidate. Just make sure he puts a helmet on his player before you let him put him in the game! You might just need to get the dreaded "bad guy" out of your system! If you are arguing this with yourself you might always be until you do it. If not this guy, it will be the next one! Date this moron and it will help you weed out all of the other morons later on. Nothing is better than a little practical application. Or you may always wonder about the bad guy and you might end up being the bad girl to your good guy someday! He is keeping his options open so if you get involved it is best that you keep yours open also. Some PEOPLE, not just men have to get things out of their system. This might just be a faze for you? If you have already been stomped on once or twice, then it is time to step back and evaluate the kind of guys you are inviting into your life! I used to be a total "player" and now I am totally in love with my girl, I respect her and tell her everything! But, if she came around a few years ago I would have not been ready for what we share today! I was ready for her when we met and I never disrespected her or our relationship! Your "bad boy" has already disrespected what you thought was "sweet and innocent"! You decide what is allowed in your life, he has let his hand show and it is your choice to let him play it or not.... But rest assured he is not ready to be exclusive!! And changing him will not happen only he can decide when that happens. So once again, what are you looking for???
2006-12-09 21:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by dfgrace22 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay away from him! You will only get hurt! There are plenty of guys out there who are respectful AND sexy and cute...you deserve one of those guys! There is no rationalizing...he's a horny pig who will probably just try to get with you too, and once he gets what he wants, he'll be out the door!!! Good luck...find someone worth your time!
2006-12-09 19:39:52 · answer #4 · answered by Renee B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh hell no why would u want to go back to him, and what was u thinkin lettin that guy in ur life. he has no respect for u what so ever. non. u dont know where his penis has been and i know u aint so stupid as to really want him back. i mean if u do take him back then i got a job on a street corner for ya. bc that is basically what u r doin but for free hell might as well make some money at it.
2006-12-09 19:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girls seem to have this nurturing quality.. so they tend to want the "challenge" of dating a "bad boy" and trying to change him.
you may be falling under this scenerio.
bottom line, you're only fooling yourself.. girls can't change a guy. a bad boy is a bad boy for a reason. he's got values and morals that you won't change.
if you stay with him, you can expect to get diseases. you can also expect to never have a real emotional love connection with him either.
give up on your desire to rescue a bad boy and focus on finding a guy that can truely make you happy.. and a guy you won't have to change!
2006-12-09 19:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well thats a hard one,cause some people will say things when their iming not really meaning it.You know for fun but if you know for sure he was trying to meet her then stay clear of him and his diseases
2006-12-09 19:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by momof3 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The guy was just trying to get laid. it doens't make him a bad guy. although asking for sex on an IM is pretty wierd but hey he has needs
2006-12-09 19:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by DA-LL /Male/ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, first you have to admit that women are retarded! that's the only way you can start to help yourself. if you keep on wanting "bad boys" , like all retarded women do, then you will find you one! you'll ended up getting in an argument, and he'll probly end up killing you, and he'll go to jail for life while you're pushin up daisies. yup... nothing like a bad boy, right?
2006-12-09 19:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Uhh your stupid why dont you find a guy worth a damm instead of wasting your time on this loser
2006-12-09 19:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by eradicater2005 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋