okay so i told my parents that i am pregnant by a black man. the thing is that my parents are very racist. they kicked me out of my house and left me with only one pair of clothes.my mom called every name in the book and told me that they never want anything to do with me again in there life. so all you parents out there give me advise about do you think that they will ever talk to me again??
2006-12-09 11:35:32 · 16 answers · asked by dee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
why would you want them to talk to you again??
2006-12-09 11:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am going to assume that you are still with the guy. In that case you just need to move on with your life and let your parents be. I had the same thing happen to me. The only difference was they didn't kick me out. I barely talked to my parents and when I did it was only to my mom. They claim to not be racist yet they don't want their daughter with a "black man". To me it doesn't make since. After the baby was born though they started coming around. After nine months of not talking to my dad once he saw the baby it was all over. He loves her more than anything. As far as my boyfriend goes. He doesn't come to the house. They have even invited him over but there is to much anger from him to accept. It's the hardest situation to be in. So, just go your separate ways and pray eventually they will come around. If not, then you're better off. You don't want your biracial child to be raised around racist people. It's not good for you or the child. You never want him/her to have mixed feelings about what race they are. I hope your parents come around and if not I wish you the best of luck with your life without them. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-09 12:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by hotredblnd788 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, do they hold a grudge? Normally I would say that they are your parents and will come around eventually because they love you. However, if you watch TV now days, racism is an issue some people can not seem to get over for any reason. You could always go on Jerry to find out, but I suggest you give them a while to cool down and then try to make contact with a peace offering. Good-luck.
2006-12-09 11:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tonya M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant at 17 and my parent's kicked me out of the house. They wouldn't talk to me or having anything to do with me. My step-mom said she would have nothing to do with my child.
Well the day my daughter was born my dad came to see me in the hospital. And now here we are 5 year's later and I'm closer to my parent's then I've ever been. Hopefully your parent's will come around and see that the race of your child isn't what's important.
A baby has a special way of melting any ones heart especially the heart of their grandparents. Good luck and enjoy your little one they truly are a gift from God.
2006-12-11 06:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 32 years old and I finally learned a very difficult but valuable lesson. Just because someone is related to you by blood does not mean they must be a part of your life. I've had a very rocky relationship with an abusive father all my life. We now have no relationship at all. I had always tried because he was dad. But I finally realized my life was better off without him. I don't like the kind of person he is. I don't respect him. If he wasn't my dad I would never even want to be around this person.
Your parents sound like very misguided, close minded people. Not only are they racist but they are so willing to throw their own daughter out on the street. Do you really want to know people who are capable fo such things? I know it is difficult because they are your parents. But they are obviously not very nice people. If they come around...good. But if not, don't push it. Just get on with your life and be a better person for it. Be the kind of person who won't judge others by race and be the kind of person who doesn't put conditions on their love. Your parents have basically said, "We love you unless...." That is just wrong.
My own children could never do anything to make me tell them I want nothing to do with them. That isn't to say they're perfect and they won't sometimes disappoint me. But there isn't a thing they could do to make me disown them. It sounds to me like you're better off.
2006-12-09 11:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes and they are acting really childish! I would never kick my hcild out of the house and def. not if they are preg. They need a reality check so act like you don't need their help and when they come crawling back ignore them and tell them how much they hurt you and until they accept you and your child they won't be in your life. That should make them think about what they did. Get help through friends or a church they will always lend out a helping hand.
2006-12-09 11:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Clearly you have a long term conflict with your parents. I won't blame them completely, but I believe they could be more forgiving to their daughter. On the other hand, you have also mae your own bed...what did you expect them to do? Should they reward you with a house and l8ifetime securty to raise your unplanned child?
Frankly, I am quite disgusted with you also. Not for screwing a black man, but for bringing a child into this world with no plan to support it and the life it deserves. You are an irresponsible brat and if that has not sunk in, just wait nine months.
Talk to your school counselor...assuming that you aren't going for the triple play and dropping out too;. Nut case
2006-12-09 11:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Salam alaykum sister, wish you're nicely Inshallah :) staggering question. i tips my moms and dads on each and every occasion they prefer it (which isn't very typically, fortuitously :D..) on each and every occasion I do recommend them, I frame of mind them in a polite and respectful way and only commence a mild-hearted communication first about some thing random, and then only say, 'Oh and Mum/Dad, you realize what you've been doing/announcing, i don't believe of that became precise, I mean it should be extra perfect to do/say XYZ because in Islam it says XYZ' and then I smile and communicate about some thing else, tell them i love them and hug them, and each and every thing's ok! :) My moms and dads are my perfect acquaintances - i visit search for suggestion from from them about some thing, and they search for suggestion from from me about such quite some issues, and we are very accepting of one yet another, so perchance the ability of one's relationship to their moms and dads/aspect of communication and closeness also performs an element in with the flexibility to having a good relationship with moms and dads and with the flexibility to carry good conversations with them :) Take care sis! Salam alaykum!! :)
2016-11-25 01:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Even if they are racist parents love their children. No matter what they do wrong we love them. I say just show them that you love this baby and they will come around. And if they don't, It is TOTALLY their loss. Good luck and Congrats
2006-12-09 11:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry honey..I am a mom and I do not want my daughter to get into an interracial relationship. I Know i would be upset if my daughter (who is 16) came home pregnant by a black guy. I would go off..But I love my daughter and i would forgive her and I would love that baby. But now my husband he may never forgive her...and if he did the black guy would not be allowed by him and it would be a mess. But, no matter what I will always love my daughter no matter what. I hope your mom feels the same as me...
2006-12-09 12:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes, I'm sure they will talk to you again. Just give them some time to get over the shock of whats going on. In the mean time take care of yourself and the baby. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-09 11:39:19 · answer #11 · answered by Melissa M 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋