My girlfriend and I are going out to dinner with her female friend, the friend's husband, and their child. My girlfriend's friend invited us for dinner and chose the dining establishment because it's her birthday. Who is supposed to pay?
2006-12-09 11:32:32 · 18 answers · asked by Daniel L 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
To my understanding, if that certain party invited you and your girlfriend as a guest then the proper way is for them to pay for the two of you.
Especially, if they have a child they should not expect you to pay for them.
However, it would be different if you or your girlfriend invited them to dinner. Then you should pay.
2006-12-11 12:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by healthnut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's gone out to dinner many times before with these people then it kinda depends on what they're used to doing. I think the husband should pay, but since it's a birthday you guys should chip in, and maybe just offer to pay for your part and see if the husband pays for everyone. It is a birthday, after all, and if you were invited to a birthday party you'd expect to bring a gift, which you would be paying for, so . . .
2006-12-09 13:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by tedschram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they invited then they should pay esp if they chose the establishment and did not consult with you about it knowing its her birthday i would have told the server that it would be in two bills you would pay for you your girlfriend an the friend or buy dessert for everyone all depends on the prices of the establishment an what i could have afforded if not buy her some candles an a card an pay for you an your girlfriend
2006-12-09 13:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared to pay for you and your girlfriend. The husband should pick up the tab for him, his wife and child. I know most say who does the inviting should pay, but the friend probably just wanted more company for her birthday.
2006-12-09 12:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no hard-and-fast rules regarding who pays in such a situation. A reasonable arrangement would be for you to pay for you and your girlfriend (unless she considers this inappropriate) and some portion of the female friend's dinner since it is her birthday. The matter is one of personal discretion, however.
2006-12-09 19:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by vladbath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who extended the invitation: The girlfriend's friend and husband should pick up the tab.
2006-12-09 13:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proper etiquette would say, since they invited you, they should pay, but I would expect to pay for my own meal just in case. They might just be wanting you guys to go along to celebrate the birthday Some people don't know the rules.
2006-12-09 11:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be prepared to pay for you and your girlfriend. The friend's husband may pick up the whole tab but they shouldn't expect you to pick up the tab. It may be the friends birthday but you were invited to join them, not you inviting them.
2006-12-09 11:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they invited you then they should probably pay. But in order to avoid paying, you should have your GF give a birthday gift to her friend during dinner.
2006-12-09 11:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by Neil P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its who invites usually. If you want to be nice you can pay for dinner as a birhtday present. If not just do seperate tabs theres more of them then there is of you guys and you didn't do the invite them they invited you.
2006-12-09 11:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by CHUMBY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋