it seems like i always get close to a guy and then he decides that he rather just be friends with me. is there anything i can do to change this?
2006-12-09 10:57:26 · 13 answers · asked by allie d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't try to change anything about yourself for any guy. You just haven't met the right one yet, or the guy hasn't realized that you're the right girl. Someday you will find a guy that truly appreciates you for who you are, and who values your friendship and wants more than just the friendship. Be patient and wait for that perfect guy, he's out there somewhere, and the wait is worth it!!
2006-12-09 11:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by redhairedgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was the situation with me and my 1st boyfriend. He and I were close friends and he asked me out early in our friendship so that we didn't get too close and ruin our chances of becoming more than friends. If you happen to like a guy from the start, make sure that things in your relationship don't get too far or you may get too close and just be friends.
2006-12-09 11:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by ~Stephie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you are getting close to the wrong type of guys. Ok...hmmm, lemme see, you need to find a guy who has the same likes and dislikes as you,then when you find him, don't get too close too early, that might scare a guy off and to him, it will feel like you are rushing things, get to know him for a while before you get close to him, that should get you out of the friends factor with the guy. :)
2006-12-09 12:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u just need to make the moves start flirting with the guys and when u really like a guy ask him out take some initiative and change things up a bit
2006-12-09 11:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by goodness gracious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Allie,
Your question is actually very common, and luckily I know the answer to break you out of that "just a friend" mold.
What you need to do is flirt with the guy you like. Flirting builds attraction and will put you from the "just a friend" category to "potential girlfriend"!
Have fun out there and don't break too many hearts. ;-)
Good luck
2006-12-09 11:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by Edward 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're choosing the wrong guys to be with. Be patient, the right guy will come along. But I know how you feel. I'm always the guy who has girls that are friends, but can't get the girlfriend. Maybe we should hook up...lol.
2006-12-09 11:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you too shy and quiet? Be more assertive and interesting, like girlfriend material. Be the sort of girl he wants to date, not the kind he just wants to hang with. You're sending out the wrong signal somewhere. Don't be too overly aggressive, just FLIRT!
2006-12-09 11:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the other way around (guy with better looking guy friends that got the girls). Change the girls you go out with.
2006-12-09 11:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're a little mannish. Switch it up some. If you don't wear them, wear a skirt, a low cut shirt, show off your womanly assets. I'm not saying be slutty, but give the men something to look at. Show your feminine side, they might think that you are gay.
2006-12-09 11:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by Nessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Edward. Start flirting and he will at least know that you are not interested in being just his friend. And if he doesn't get the hint and one day says "your such a good friend" just look him straight in the eyes and say "who told you I want to be your friend."
2006-12-09 11:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by Adelaide V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋