why is it that some girls would rather have be with a guy who pretends not to hear you when you cry? the guy that doesn't give a **** about what you think and only wants one thing from you before they show you their true colors?? i had a crush on ex-best friend, when we WERE friends, she was always attracted to the
a_s_s holes. We were talkning one night and she spilled her guts about her "ideal" guy. In my mind i was pissed, because everthing she said she wanted, was everything i wanted to be to her. So many years wasted trying to be with her. 1 month ago we got into an argument because i told her what i thought of her bf, in a calm way though. trying to get her to realize what she kept getting herslef into, so many nights we spent hours on the phone, she consistently complained about her bf's. we been friends for 9 years and by this time i've already told her how i felt about her like 5 different times, but she still said a relationship was a bad idea, (no). i don't get it.......
2006-12-09 10:44:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some girls think that they don't deserve any better. They consistently get with the wrong guy cause they thinks that thats the best they can ever get, and maybe she doesn't want to get with yuo because she thinks your too good for her. Tell her the truth again *maybe in a letter, but not a short little thing, you have to be honest and romantic and and jeez man, forget about her, right me the darn letter!* lol, j/k. A girl is more apt to read a letter than she is to listen to you, and by reading the letter, she is also more apt to realize what an awesome guy you are and next thing you know, she's gonna be banging down your door.
then again, maybe she really just isn't into you, but you never know until you've tried!
Luck~
2006-12-09 10:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because EACH female is different than another. Because we are able to make our own choices whether they make sense to YOU or not. You are ticked because this girl chose to be in the relationship she was in. But you have no right being ticked off at her. You think she should live YOUR way and she has other ideas. YOU complain about "so many years wasted" Yet you CHOSE to waste those years, that isn't HER fault. You were expecting her to change so you stuck around banking on her changing and when she didn't it made you mad. So get off of your mad and "I don't get it" because they are for the wrong person.
2006-12-09 10:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a relationship betwen you and her is bad idea. Why because she just like "you" as a friend thats all...Even if you are the ideal guy for her she won't like you like a bf...Sometimes is just the way it is. And if both of you get in a relationship one of those days both of you will want to go out of that relationship...So what will happend you frienship will be off because you won't be the same after all...
2006-12-09 10:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just her tastes are different. She's looking for a good guy on the inside but a toiugh one on the outside. She'll figure it out soon that she missed a good guy. Try to move on and find a girl who will appreciate you for what you truly are. Don't try to be something you're not.
2006-12-09 10:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by ~Stephie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she had any interest in you like that, she would have picked up on all the hints you've dropped.. actually they werent even hints they were you being honest and telling her your feelings.. so if she was into you then she would have acted when u spilled ur feelings... a lot of girls go for player-type guys cause theyre the time that attract them most
2006-12-09 10:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by hairkair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
myself, in the past---was attracted to all of the ***holes.......then recenty went to a party w/ my new bf, where 3 such ex-'s were at too---and told him how much i appreciate being w/ him, even though we have a tremendous amount of differences-----now----but, he dosent listen, and a lot of the same stuff---but--girls go for the bad boys, and i think it takes a great guy to change therir ideal around---who wants an ***hole really?? i guess it depends----
2006-12-09 10:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing her bf is your best friend,that's cold.Secondly,it could bring confusion between three of you and that wont be nice.At times even though a guy doesn't show a girl how much he loves her, the girl still holds to him cause of something about him she likes.And that's what love is all about .Thirdly you might just crash and burn her later on.
2006-12-09 10:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by sweets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most girls always say they just want a nice, caring, understanding boyfriend who is a good listener and will always be there for her and blah blah blah. i'm assuming this is what you were to her. the truth is, we don't want that, and even when we do we take it for granted when we find it and go for the obnoxious jerks. she may realize that you are way better for her, she might just find a nice caring whatever guy, she might just date assholes for the rest of her life.
either way... all girls do it. we say one thing, but we go for the other.
2006-12-09 10:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by clementine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friends r always telling a need a less aggressive guy but the ones us girls can't have r what we want.we want a bad boy type.the hands on type ;)...
but there r plenty grls looking for sum1 like u just quit looking at her and look around
2006-12-09 10:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by tuhani101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't want to date you because ya'll have been friends for along time and she doesn't want to ruin that!!! well i think that anyways but yea one day she will realize that you were right and she was wrong to date these guys trut me same thing is happening to me and my ex boyfriend we were best friends before we dated then he broke up with me and i hated him but were back to being friends because i talked to him and told him it was stupid but yea if you like her alot keep trying but you need to prove to her they aren't the ones for her!! hope i could help <33
2006-12-09 10:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋