my boyfriend and i recently got engaged but neither of our famillies seem to be pleased for us? we all get on well but no one seems happy for us? its hardly been mentioned since the night we got engaged?
2006-12-09 10:35:53 · 33 answers · asked by catriona0285 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you cant make people happy for you no matter how much you wish you could, all i can suggest is that if you and your boyfriend are happy with getting engaged and married then treasure the moment and enjoy the happiness you give each other, it is you and your bloke that are going to be spending the rest of your lives together and if others aren't happy for you then that is there loss, hope you are very happy together
2006-12-10 22:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you getting married young? If age is an issue, it could just take them some time to warm up to the idea - they may think you're rushing things.
Or, maybe they don't know how to react. After I told my dad I was engaged, he said, "Oh, that's nice. How's the weather up there?" Eventually, he brought it up again, but he's such a socially awkard person.
Weddings have so many "rules" and are so personal that some people don't know how to react. It's kind of like when someone says, "I'm pregnant!" Besides congratulations, what do you say? They may not to want to pry into your personal lives and are trying to be respectful.
As the wedding draws nearer, I'm sure they'll get more comfortable about it.
And, if they don't mention it, then you can bring it up. Ask your families for their opinions on the ceremony and reception sites, or something else related to the wedding...just remember that you can't please everyone and that this is really for the two of you.
2006-12-09 12:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are probably jealous that you are in love and found happiness - unfortunately, you can't force people to be happy for you. Just don't gloat about the fact that you are engaged to them and simply raise it with them that no one seems to be happy for you both and ask if there is a problem with you engagement. They sound like a miserable bunch of people. As long as you and your fiance are happy, that is what counts - don't be concerned about pleasing other people and worrying if they are happy for you. Live your own lives and be happy.
2006-12-09 10:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations to the both of you, i am really happy for you.
Don't let them get you down. You and your man are looking forward to spending the rest of your lives together and what anyone thinks outside of that is their problem.
You are marrying your man not his family, believe me i had the same problem with my family, still cant understand to this day why, but everything turned out fine in the end and we are still very happy after 18 years together.
You know the saying you can choose your friends but not your family.
So all the best in sharing your lives together, be happy you have found each other and enjoy every minute of this special time.
2006-12-09 21:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by ANMAR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you go through life, you will come to realize that you cannot control what other people think or feel. If the two of you are happy, that is the only thing that matters. Maybe as they see how much you love each other, they will come around later on. I wouldn't worry about it, just be happy and live your life. Good luck to you.
2006-12-09 11:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can make people happy. I think you should just spend the holidays with each other's families, so they can get to know you two better as individuals and a couple. That was actually a problem that my fiance and I are still working on, but overall both families and friends are happy. Just work it out.
2006-12-09 10:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Coalie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't get others to be happy for you. You're responsible for your own happiness and everyone else is responsible for theirs. But you could try asking them why they don't seem too thrilled at the engagement?
2006-12-09 11:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi dont worry about making other people happy, Just as long as you and you fiancee are happy thats all that counts. I know it would be nice for you to have support from both sides of your familys, but familys can be funny sometimes. Soon they will be happy for you and realise its what you want. Just remember its yourlife and if you are happy who care wheather they are happy or not, Congratulations. and dont worry.
2006-12-11 05:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, if they don't like the situation then there not worth to worry, but I'm sure there come around sooner or later and be happy for you both, maybe its just the shock, don't worry I'm sure it will turn out fine, i wish you all the luck with your marriage.
2006-12-09 10:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with other answers, if you are both happy then carry on.
But I would talk to family & find out why they are not happy. If they know something you don't, may be a good idea to find out, or if they have the wrong impression of him, you could put them straight.
2006-12-09 10:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋