Is BEATING Children REALLY WRONG?

Question

I mean, what if they don't listen?

Yes, I'm kidding! Man O Day, you folks are passionate! :)

Answer 1

Beating a child is never okay, because it does nothing for the child, and onyl temporarily relieves a parents anger.

Children who act badly enough to make a parent feel like beating them have gained the bahvaior from parents who dont have consistant effective parenting techniques, and instead react in ways that make themselves feel better at the moment.

Raising a good, well bahaved child isnt easy. Its work. Its like exercise. Its only effective when you're consistant.

Answer 2

YES! Beating your children IS wrong. Spanking is OK, but only if it's necessary. Time out works better a lot of the time anyway. We teach our kids how to act in the real world. The chances are that what you do to your kids, they will do to theirs. If they are not listening, than try other things. Time out, or ignore them if they keep asking for something over and over. Kids learn us, they know how to push buttons. They know that if they irritated us long enough we'll give in. Get some help if you feel that you can't control them anymore. Don't beat them. That makes the problem worse.

Answer 3

It depends. If he hurts another child in the sandbox, hurts an elderly person, purposely breaks a neighbors window, then it’s time to take out the belt. I’m all for corporal punishment especially in this era where kids hang around with the wrong crowd, start smoking and drinking when they are in their pre-teens, and gets a girl pregnant. But if a parent beats a child because they didn’t get the beer in time or the parent gets upset at work and takes it out in the child or wife, then anyone should be totally against that kind of gratuitous violence. But if it’s for discipline for a child’s wrong doing then I’m all for that. It’s better if the kid learns the consequences/ right from wrong from the parent or older sibling than as an adult in jail. However, what goes on in one family's house is different than what goes on in another family's house.

Answer 4

There is a HUGE difference between beating children and disciplining them. A smack on the bottom isn't going to do permanent damage to a child -- and generations of children have survived that traditional form of punishment. But the thing with spanking, or any other physical punishment, simply means that you are teaching the child that someone who is bigger and stronger than them has the right to smack them. And that's not a good lesson, because when they are bigger and stronger than someone else, they will try to impose their wishes by beating or smacking the person who is smaller. That's how bullying begins, and how wife-beating begins. There are better ways to discipline children, ranging from reasoning with them to time outs, or loss of privilege or simply removing them from the scene (which is the best thing to do with a two-year old throwing a tantrum in a public place.)

Answer 5

If they don't listen then learn better parenting skills!
A small swat on the backside is not that bad, but it teaches your kid "Physical violence is how adults interact with children" and "I'm bigger than you so I get to hurt you" It lowers their feelings of self worth. And turns them into bullies.

Think about how you feel at work when the boss does something really stupid and mean just because he can, now multiply that by your kids whole childhood. You are going to end up in the nursing home where they beat you and steal your pills, because your kids will say "serves them right"

Answer 6

Beating is NEVER okay. A spanking should be done only with children that can't be reasoned with. Even a child that is spanked, should be spanked once, in a way that stings, and never to do physical harm. After a spank, a clear calm explanation should be given as SOON as BOTH of you have recovered. As soon as the child understands that you can restrict access to things that they like, you should change to this form of correction. Relying on pain will only bring YOU pain eventually.

Answer 7

Beating! What are you a WWF wrestler? Of course not. Children shouldn't ever be beat. Paddling and spankings are one thing but hitting anyone the face is wrong. But hey, go ahead, then when your 70 and they leave you in some shabby home and take your cash and never visit don't ask why.

Answer 8

I have never ran across a person with the unability to care for a child until you.........I really believe you should just march out of the house right now and turn yourself over to the authorities........Your child is a gift...not a burden...You should not even be alowed around children....If you were beat as a child then now is the time to BREAK THE CHAIN!!!

Answer 9

Beating children is not only horrible, but it's illegal! Child abuse is NOT the answer. If your kids don't listen, try taking them to a children's therapist or a doctor. Otherwise, try talking to them calmly. Give them a time out or take away something that they love. They'll learn eventually.

Answer 10

You just asked the million dollar question. Beating is always wrong, spanking on the butt is what allowed by cps if by hand only. Consistent punishment, rather a swat or a time out, that is not just a threat or occasionally slacking will eventually get your child's attention.