a) going out and meeting a stranger in a club etc?
b) getting a co-worker tipsy and taking him home?
I have my reasons for asking so pls state which one. I do not need a lecture on morals because you do not know my story.
Please just state which option you think is better and why.
P.S _ I cannot adopt, I will have to wait a considerable amount of time for a sperm bank, I do not wish to ask anyone it would be too embarrasing
2006-12-09 10:05:12 · 28 answers · asked by Gillian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You'll have to face your co worker again, and it could make the situation very awkward.
If you're definitely set on the idea, i'd say a stranger in a club is a much better bet.
There are also more people, so you'll probably get someone better looking and have a more attractive baby :-P
2006-12-09 10:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try a sperm donor from a gay man, after checking if he had a current aids test. Why a gay man? Well many of them would love to be a parent but have a very limited opportunity. Its up to you and him as too how much parenting he can get involved in. There is no need to go to a sperm bank. All you need to do is select your donor, get him to masterbate into a paper cup. Then wait until you are 14 days away from your last period (if you are regular) and insert it in with a turkeybaster. Lesbians do it all the time. I know loads of children concieved by this method. And its more honest as no one wants to be made a parent against their will.
2006-12-09 10:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by selchiequeen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should really not shyte where you eat, but you don't know the stranger either. Shagg the guy at work, at least you'll know where to find him if it doesn't work out first time. What ever you do, do not tell him your intentions - men will freak out about that. the added bonus of doing the guy at work is that when the CSA want to track him down for maintenance you know where he is. Great idea - I like it. see my advice re getting him tipsy - that is not necessary or effective. good luck
2006-12-09 11:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least with the co-worker you will know who the father is, you probably wont see the bloke from the club ever again, unless thats how you want it, up to you, either way seems a bit odd
2006-12-09 10:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by gizmo-570 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither....with strangers in a club, you run the risk of disease and having a stalker later on.
With a co-worker, you have to worry about disease, and you still have to work with the guy.
Get over your embarrassment and ask someone to father a child for you.
2006-12-09 10:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems kind of selfish to go trick someone. If it actually works, you will deprive someone from knowing their child and a child from knowing their father. Whoever the father is, they will have a moral and legal responsibility to the child. That is a choice that should be made and not forced under dishonest circumstances.
2006-12-09 10:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by thkiabdks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A stranger would be dangerous.
a co-worker tipsy is taking advantage of him and you could be charged with rape.... and yes... men can be raped!
Why don't you find a boyfriend and then do this? Or be honest with the co-worker that you must think is good genetic material and he may help you in one of two ways....
One is to have intercourse.
The other is a turkey baster. He masterbates into it..... and then you shoot it up your vagina. That has worked before and was in the news.... and it makes sense that it works.
What you can't do is take advantage of someone without their consent.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-09 10:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Adoption on your baby and get the hell remote out of your boyfriend. extremely your in common words 19 are you quite waiting to preserve slightly one, it appears like you do not actually have your life at the same time. i'm no longer attempting to be mean, i have only seen such quite some youthful moms which could have meant nicely by retaining their infant, yet extremely at the same time as your 19, have a GED, no perfect preparation, low earnings, and in a abusive relationship what life do you anticipate to grant your baby. in case you position your infant up for adoption there are a selection of thoughts, you may opt for a kinfolk your self how a lot extra perfect is that. also you may request to be in a position to work out your baby for the time of his/her life many couples are open to this theory. Plus your baby could have a astounding life, a good preparation, and could no longer hate you for making the right decision to grant him/her a extra perfect life than you've gotten ever provided. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE search for help, i wont sense sorry about it.
2016-11-25 01:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by bornhoft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could use sum-one from work as you know them and what they r about butt then its the after affects of facing him ,but if you choose a stranger you dont know were they have been or what they have but saying that you wouldn't know that of your work colleague oh I'm con fussed now just do what ever you feel you can deal with just remember a child will be apart of this dissuasion at the end of it
2006-12-09 10:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by washerwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't recommend either option, but u seem to have made your mind up...... the lesser of the 2 evils in my opinion would be going with a stranger.... not a good idea in mixing business with pleasure.... that could get very complicated........ be careful....... it's not just a pregnancy that u could come away with....... u could end up catching a STD that leaves u totally unable to have children...... also, try to think about what u would tell your child when they ask about their father..... afterall, they are going to want to know.
2006-12-09 10:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋