in nov she asked if I could go to her graduation and Irefused. She asked a few more times and I refused. I then explained it was too much hassle travelling and can't book work off in dec. She stayed silent. I then get invited to a new years party in new york from mates from uni and decide to ask my employers for time off in dec. I ask my other sister if she is going to graduation and she says she has got time of work. i book the train and now she has cancelled saying that she does not want to attend her graduation as she feels not proud of her work. she told me that she was angry that i kept refusing but made time for a new years party. I said but in the end I made the effort and she said that was only because of peer pressure from my other sister. Is she right to be this upset? Last year I went to her degree graduation and she made a fuss cos we (m and my mum~0 asked her to pay for her graduationmeal and we did not get her present. Well I really do not feel like getting her a card.
2006-12-09
10:03:19
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for her mastersgraduation. She is so material orientayted. Yes I got lots of presents but I cannot help that? Its annoying as I booked a train and was willing to risk my job to throw a sickie to come in the end for her graduation and now she has changed her mind. My mum has said that wenI go out after work for a drink she says my sisters says ~I have been in pub all day drinking. My sisters denies this...but I will alays believew my mum over my sister as she has lied before about a relationship with a white bloke, she has stlen mney , and taken drug overdoses too.
2006-12-09
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i don't think that she is being manipulative. i think that u have really hurt her feelings, and i can understand why she feels like that. afterall, from what u have said, it looks like u have put your own desires before anything else. this graduation is a very important thing to your sister, and u don't seem to appreciate that. your family should come first, before parties and shopping. how would u feel if someone behaved like this when u were trying to celebrate a very important time in your life ??? personally, i think you have acted pretty selfishly. ok, so u are making some kind of effort now, but a lot of damage has already been done. if i were u, i would do a whole load of grovelling in order to make things right between you and your sister.
2006-12-09 10:21:40
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answered by Anonymous
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Why don't people pay attention in English class?
Alright, here is an attempt at an answer...You should have gone to her graduation if you could. Since you have work, no big deal. What I can sort of tell from what you wrote is that you finally got time off and she said she wasn't going....
She isn't being manipulative, she was probably just hurt you didn't get the time off in the first place.
I can hardly understand what you are writing...
2006-12-09 10:16:16
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answered by Thera 9 4
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Not surprised your sisters gone like this as your the one who can't be bothered to go to her graduation but can take time of for your mates! Do you love your family? She asked you to be there for her on her special day and all you can think of is yourself you should be ashamed be there for your family there all you've got when theres no one around!
2006-12-11 00:51:26
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answered by sez75 3
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i think that it was a bit rude to feel that you would rather attend a party than celebrating success with your sister. i think that parties come and go and graduations a key moments in people's lives. she is asking you to be a part of something she's is really happy about.
i wouldnt say she is manipulative at all. it was your conscience to gear you into thinking her graduation is more important; it made you think about both events and weigh out which one you should attend.
2006-12-09 10:10:22
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answered by bjperez07 3
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it seems u are a bit selfish, shes rite that u chose to go for a party n not her graduation, she must have been hurt a lot
it seems shes deprived n her drug abuse is a way to take tings of her mind, she needs help n she needs it from her family first
2006-12-09 10:22:57
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answered by sam 1
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She is definately a manipulator and she plays hardball manipulation games. Watch out! In no time she'll be a Hollywood Talent Agent!
2006-12-09 10:15:14
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answered by darrellkern 3
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Sounds like there are other issues between the two of you.
The last statement says it all....you don feel like getting her a card.
If you don't want to go.....don't.....
Gifts are the persons choice....who is giving them...they are not mandatory........kind and respectful of the other persons accomplishment....yes...a way to celebrate with them...yes....
a Have to no.......
I think I would have sent a card and let it go.....
Just my thoughts....
Best wishes
Have fun New Years......because you should!
2006-12-09 10:11:55
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answered by travelingirl005 5
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Don'you care about your sis graduating? Its an important day for her and it seems that she values you more than you value her.
I'd never talk to you again.
2006-12-09 11:46:31
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answered by sandwich 3
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If you can't be bothered to proud of your sister's achievement, I'm not surprised she's upset!
2006-12-09 10:50:13
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answered by Thia 6
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yes
2006-12-09 10:09:31
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answered by chiefof nothing 6
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