Should i tell my bf i got drunk and kissed another guy?

Question

ok, i have been with my bf for about 10 months and i love him more than i can put in words.
we have been in diffrent cities for 2 months for work. i miss him so much.
On a night last week, i got totally drunk and was talking to this guy who was trying to pick me up. i told him no and that i had a bf but he seemed nice and i was having fun making a friend in this new city so i kept talking to him. i got drunker and drunker and he kissed me. i truley dont remember starting to kiss him, i just remember stoping and saying i did not want too.
now i dont no if i should tell my bf what happened. im not seeing him for another month, it will never happen again. i wont let it. but i feel awfull. He will only get hurt if i tell him and i love him so much. i am the only one that knows what happened except the other guy whos name i dont even know. but should i tell my bf

Answer 1

No and don't tell him about the sex you forgot to remember either.

Answer 2

Being honest is the most important thing in a relationship. I have been through the same thing you have, only I was the one that had gotten hurt. At first your bf might be a little upset and jealous and question your relationship, but if you don't tell him then your not being honest with yourself. You always get caught in the end no matter what, even if your other half has no idea. It's always best to be honest with the person you are with. If you tell him the truth of what happened that night, you will be well more respected that you care enough to tell him so he won't be as mad, but Good Luck!

Answer 3

I'm sure he'll be hurt, but it's better to get it out your system now than to carry round any guilt for god knows how long. Also, if it somehow got back to him, he'll think that you planned to cheat.

Say it how it was. Some guy asked you out. You said no. Because you were drunk he tried it on and you told him to stop. Remind your boyfriend that one of the reasons you didn't get the hell out of there in the first place because you felt alone in a new city and felt like you needed the company. You don't sound like a bad person- but you've reminded me exactly why I don't drink- the fact you lose control.

Tell your boyfriend that he'd be completely irrational to think that you were being out of line, but admit you shouldn't have got drunk and promise- and keep to your promise- never to get drunk like that again.

If I were a guy and my girlfriend did that, I'd be furious because you would have put yourself in a situation where you could have ended up getting raped or worse.

Tell the truth, stay off the booze and try to be a more loyal girlfriend.

Me, I would have walked at the first sign the guy was sleazing over me and wouldn't have been drinking anyway.

Hope you can get this sorted out and move on. You sound like a nice person, just remember to keep a cool head in situations like that.

Answer 4

That is up to you, but it is obviously bothering your conscience. If you don't tell him, it will continue to eat you up. I believe in honesty and communication in any relationship, even if it is going to be an uncomfortable conversation. You can tell him you drank, got drunk and kissed a guy, just like you did. Tell him you should not have drank and hopefully you have learned your lesson and will not put yourself in that situation again. We all make mistakes. Ask him for forgiveness and learn from this. You will be ok. I am sure he will be upset. If the roles were reversed, would you want to know and would you forgive him?

Answer 5

Put yourself in his shoes, and suck this up. You would be trying to live with a guilty concience that could cause you to accuse him at some point if you don't come clean.

If you will truly never do it again and you want to barf just thinking about how bad that was, then tell him and take your lumps lol (figure of speech)

if he forgives you, you are one lucky girl, and you should definitely make it up to him in all ways possible, and prove yourself to him.

Don't drink anymore.

Trust is earned.

Move back to the same city as him pronto if you want this to stay cool.

Answer 6

You should not tell him not unless you are willing to risk loosing him. You feel guilty and you want to tell but some things are better left unsaid. Do not lie, if he should ask but you do not have to volunteer the information. IF you were married it would be a different thing but you are not and an innocent kiss is just that. Keep quiet if you want to keep the guy and learn a lesson. Know when to say when or perhaps you should not drink when not with your boyfriend. Good luck

Answer 7

You shouldnt keep secrets from a guy you love, and he should understand that you were drunk, and didnt know you were doing it. Just be honest with him, either that or you can lie about it, and feel guilty for the rest of your life knowing you kept a secret, and if you break and tell him, he's going to have a hard time if he loves you as much as you love him, that or he can find the hard way and think you're cheating on him. =)

Answer 8

Well put it this way, if you are absolutely positively sure that NOBODY ELSE is gonna tell him, then NO, don't tell him.
But these things have a way of getting around....
And you made out with a guy and you didnt even get his name?
I'd stay away from the liquor for a while if I were you....hope he didnt get any pictures...KIDDING!
Don't freak out about it, you could always say someone slipped you a mickey if it does come out. Practice the "OH MY GOD" face in the mirror. You sound like a nice kid, maybe you should go spend the weekend with the BF.

Answer 9

Well, I think the best thing to do is tell the truth. I think it's understandable because you were so drunk, and at least you only kissed. And he was the one who kissed you, not the other way around. If you don't tell him, then the guilt will build up in you. Good luck!!

Answer 10

Don't tell him until you guys are back in the same city. But, if he trusts you he will know that it was a mistake. However, this can potentially ruin your relationship--just depends on how you want it to come out--will he find out otherwise?

Answer 11

Well if you loved him, you wouldn't be running around kissing other guys. Stop fooling yourself and him for that matter. And why is that when people regret something they've done, they always blame it on being drunk. En Vino Veritas.