If MY Child Dose'nt Want To Act Right, Should I BEAT HIm Till He Yeilds?///?

Question

I think He needs to be beaten till he listens.

Just kidding. Beating is abuse,not decepiline. I still spell bad. :)

Answer 1

I don't disagree to the occasional spanking of a child if he/she severly misbehaves but if you believe you need to beat your child for them to obey you, you need to attend some anger management classes and parenting classes.

There are better ways of dealing with the situation and breaking the cycle of abuse. There are positive parenting techniques to use when a spanking doesn't work. Children respond to this better than a temporary fix.

Please seek help, it may be best for you and your child.

Answer 2

Okay-everyone attacked this person when they have a valid question. Please don't act like this a new issue, folks. Alot of us are from the old school where our parents beat the crap outta us until we got the point.

Now to answer the question: We may have gotten beaten and it may have worked for us, but try to remember how you felt. Better yet, do you remember what you were beaten for, or do you just remember the beating? That's how you know that's not always the right solution. The dysfunctional chain has got to stop somewhere-let it stop with you. There are better ways to punish your child. Is there something they like to do that is particularly FUN for them? TAKE THAT PRIVILAGE(s) AWAY UNTIL HE/SHE LEARNS!!! Start taking away their dessert/snacks. Make them drink water all day and no juice(this is torture for some kids). Hide their toys in your closet. Tell them they won't get anything for the holidays. Even if you bought him/her gifts, hide them until you feel they've improved, etc.


The point is, beating doesn't really help them learn anything-they may even become more rebellious and develop self esteem issues. We are all human and sometimes we'd love to ring our kid's necks, myself included. But those are the times you need to take a walk-go into another room, and cool off. Even better, formulate your well-thought punishment during your cool down. You'll be a much better parent for it, and they won't grow up to resent you.


Hope I helped! Good Luck!

Answer 3

I personally believe that sometimes you do have to spank/whoop a kid... The Bible even says spare the rod and spoil the child. Kids today are running over parents because of the fact that parents don't do enough hardcore parenting... I don't mean beat a child, but a good smack on the butt is more often than not warrented and very much needed. My dad use to say, "A hard head makes a soft behind" And there are sooo many kids with hard heads these days because parents are either afraid of spanking their kids are don't because they feel guilty because they both have to work and commute to far to spend any time with them... hey if you spank em once or twice... just the fear of having it happen again is sometimes enough!

Answer 4

I do hope you really don't mean "BEAT" in a litteral sense. However, I don't see anything wrong with the occasional swat on the rear. Spanking in a good form of punishment especially if you have warned the kid to behave several times and they are still ignoring you. Too many kids today run the show at home and it is no wonder they have NO manners, are rude, disrespectful and poor members of society.

Answer 5

that's ridiculous. then he'll just grow up hating you. you have to be loving but firm. i don't know how old he is, but if he's pretty young, and he's not acting properly, for example, if he's throwing a fit, put him in a room alone, and make it clear that he can't come out until he's done with his fit. just an example.
or if he's not obeying, and you give him a punishment, then keep giving him that punishment so that he realizes that you mean it when you tell him something.
beating is not showing love at all to a child. and it's your duty as a parent to be firm but above all loving to your kid. i totally agree with Nikki's answer.

Answer 6

OMG NO!!! That is aginst the law!!!! People go to jail for that. How old his he? Most kids act out, some worce then others. Take toys and fun stuff away he might start to listen. But beating him NO he will grow up to hate you!

Answer 7

Don't abuse the poor thing just maybe listen to him and maybe he has a reasoning or maybe just put him in time out but don't beat him unless you want to get charged for child abuse!!

Answer 8

yes! spare the rod spoil the child! no jk i raised 2 children and i only spanked them if they lied to me never any other time, they turned out just fine. now i have a 6 yr old and yes ive spanked him! probably 2 maybe 3 times his whole life but none the less its different with each child soooo if you are asking on this "site" then your child must be asking for a good one! :) only you know my dear

Answer 9

no kids should no be beaten take stuff away from them that they like ground them never beat and the childs misbehaving comes from what they see from the parents i know because i have19 kids

Answer 10

Dont beat him.If you beat him,thats kinda child abuse. I was smacked when I was younger,and I was punished by standing on my knees in the corner.You shouldnt beat him though.