I do not ascribe to ANY organized religion. But remain open-minded/respectful to all of them. My 11 yr old stepdaughter is Muslim and from another country. She/ her brothers moved in with us (brothers are 18+ Yrs Old ). All are judgemental of American culture, other religions, people who drink, etc. The other day SD saw a calander w/the holiday Hanukkah on it and asked is school out. I said “I don’t think so. Still, it's an important Jewish Holiday a…” right then she abruptly cut me off and barked “I don’t want to know what THEIR holiday is about!” Another time I see a 6ft tall, pink Christmas tree. She loves pink and drew Christmas trees at school once. I said “Wow look at this tree ___! Isn’t it…”again I was cut off as she snapped, “I don’t like anything to do with Christmas so, I don't need to look at it." Husband says he doesn't care what she says to "non-muslims" including me. Blatant intolerance of others religions/cultures I find revolting & her nasty tone w/me--not OK. Ideas?
2006-12-09 09:22:24 · 14 answers · asked by Kaitlyn 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
muslimes love and respect all that is fact
2006-12-09 09:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 6⤋
Her intolerance can't be fixed if she's already 11. But if I were you I'd corner her Dad about her cutting you off and not speaking to you respectfully. I'm pretty sure that respect for elders is a tenet of Muslim faith just as it is in more other religions. If your husband won't rein her in at least in the disrespectful talk towards you....personally I'd leave him. No religion gives an 11 year old the right to back talk an adult...and if your husband won't stand by you then he's not a worthy husband.
2006-12-09 09:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to all of them that the freedom they are enjoying in this country was built on freedom of speech and religion. I would not tolerate that kind of disrespect or nonsense. It should be obvious to you that none of these people have any regard for you as a human being because you are a non muslim. If they want to have a one sided view of the world possibly they should relocate to one of the many countries in the world that embrace such narrow minded, uncivilized and ignorant beliefs. Also, unless you wish to accept this continued abuse (which will only get worse) you might choose to bid them adieu at the gate when they leave.
2006-12-09 09:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jewelhunter 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would not do anything to a stepchild w/o permission from parent, unless you are legal guardian or adopting. I think it would be better to talk to your husband about this, and maybe see why he doesn't think it is important for his children to respect people, including you.
But if you discipline her and he does not back you up, you will just look like the bad guy and she will get worse in her behavior toward you and drive a wedge b/w you and your husband. parents and/or spouses should try to present a united front whenever possible, especially when one is a stepparent. It is also more stable for the child to know that there is one set of rules that applies in the house.
I would encourage you to work something out with your husband quickly though, since the more settled she gets into these habits the more difficult it will be to change her.
You might want to point out (to your husband) that it is very hard for you to have respect for muslims like him and his kids when they think they can treat you like dirt. You should not have to be sensitive to them if they are not reciprocating.
2006-12-09 09:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a belt. And every single time she starts that crap, just lay it against that backside. Liberals can say what they want, that behaviour is not correctly dealt with with timeouts, etc. It requires corpral punishment. And no, only an idiot would think that whipping a kid for bad behaviour teaches the child that violence is a good way to solve conflicts. Don't listen to that claptrap.
And why the heck are you married to that man? He doesn't repect you at all. Look into divorce, you are married to a monster who is raising his kid to be one, too.
You have gotten yourself into a great mess, but you can also get yourself out. It's not too late, there is hope. Hopefully you live in the states.
2006-12-09 09:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you have to listen to a child? A rude child at that. I don't know much about muslims, but I think obiedience to your parents is probably on the list of things they follow. If it isn't, its time for a little re-education in the form of you leaving, and maybe getting custody of the little brat so you can get her some therapy because it sounds like she's going to grow up to be a total bi-atch just like your husband.
What sort of things is a person who will deny others common courtesy due to their being a different religion going to do when they grow up?
2006-12-09 09:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if your husband doesn't care how she talks to you and even vies you as being less because you aren't muslim is it worth it to stay in the relationship? it doesn't sound very pleasent. as for the problem it would be hard for her to be more respectful if she sees others being just as disrespectful to other cultures and religions.
2006-12-09 09:32:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jacob R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on, I have read and responded to your previous questions and it sounds like your husband and his children have no respect for you and you may want to rethink the relationship. I have no problem with Muslims, but i do not condone being a doormat.
2006-12-09 09:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I definately do not agree with Jessica M. . .You are married to this man and with that you should treat his children as your own and if he says something about what you say to "his" children then you need to tell him exactly that you and him are married what is his is yours and what is your is his. Do not let her disrespect you for one you are an adult and for two your parents and ancestors fought for the beautiful country we live in today and the freedom that we enjoy. . .You are not asking her to believe the things that you do but DO NOT let her disrespect YOUR elders and ancestors! You are an AMERICAN no matter what your religious beleifs!
2006-12-09 09:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by lorisbarbie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave. Middle Eastern men have no respect for women at all. To them we are considered worse than 3rd class. I would NEVER allow a man or his kids to talk to me like that. I have two step-kids and they were rude to me when my husband and I first got together and I put a stop to it right away.
2006-12-09 09:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. That sounds hurtful.
I think, if even possible, explain to her that you are trying to educate her. Its not about enforcing other beliefs and religions on her, but to let her know its there. Your husband should be more understanding and tell her to stop being so rude to you.
What a brat. :(
2006-12-09 09:29:11 · answer #11 · answered by enticingmind 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋