My boyfriend of 5 years within the last year has started calling me names when we fight. The one that I hate the most is the C word. Can he still love me and call me this when we fight?
2006-12-09 09:20:26 · 7 answers · asked by wondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. no lady deserves to be called names, esp that one. time to get rid of him and date someone who will love you and not feel ike he needs to call you names.
2006-12-09 09:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has some issues that were probably around long before you. At this point he probably does not know what love is. I will say from experience...it will be worse and the cycles of abuse will speed up, if there is no intervention. (that may include the police) Professional intervention for him...for you; to decide to stay is your business, but you do not deserve the abuse. If you do stay...well in time you will feel like the victm...and you are not the victim if you continue to "accept" the name calling. By staying in the relationship under the current circumstances makes you a willing participant. Well...I love him and he loves you... might be said. Abuse is not "love" Love does not hurt. I am only speaking from my personal experiences...I wish you the best.
2006-12-09 17:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Rudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's bad. Not when you're angry but when you're calm and in control of yourself and he's not in an angry mood either, you need to tell him how you feel about him calling you names. If he gets angry and defends him calling you those names, saying you deserve it or anything else, leave him. Boyfriend of five years or not, NO ONE has the right to treat you in such a way. Its actually verbal abuse and such abuse can be taken to court. You deserve more than a man who doesn't respect you. He might love you but then that means nothing if he's hurting you like this. You look after your own heart and wellbeing. If this continues and you break it up, don't feel sorry for him.
2006-12-09 17:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by caz15th 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a word you call someone you love or respect. Talk with him. Let him know how you feel about the name calling. Something has obviously changed in your relationship. If you can't work through it, move on. Nothing will come of this relationship if he doesn't respect you.
2006-12-09 17:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by justcurious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at what else has changed in the relationship. Why is he now resorting to such horrendous name calling? As far as whether he loves you still or not, I would try and determine if anything else has changed.
2006-12-09 17:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Koko Loco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be-careful....it can start with name calling and lead to a physical hurt.
Calling someone names and yelling is verbal abuse....I would think twice about where this relationship is going.....
When someone chooses to call another person names....the motive is to Hurt them.....not make them feel better.
best wishes
2006-12-09 17:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no excuse for calling names like that even when you're fighting
2006-12-09 17:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋