he has a GF,help me out guys please?

Question

the guy i like who i have got to know very well has just told me he has a GF and they got together last week.when he told me in my mind i was really upset and angry but i will not ever come between a couple.should i tell him that i like him? i really do,and i dont know what to do.i would love to go out with him,please help,im feelin a bit disappointed

Answer 1

Well, if they just got together last week, you might try just waiting a while. But I really think you should investigate other possibilites in the meantime. You might find a guy who's better for you than this one! Just look around for and chit-chat with other guys. Good luck!

I must take exception to the advice of the answerer who said he would break up with his girlfriend if he liked you. That might be true IF and ONLY IF he knew you liked him from the start. Then he would not be fearing rejection. But if he liked you and thought he didn't have a chance with you, and another decent girl who he knows likes him comes along, then he would go for the decent girl who likes him over you (if he has any sense, that is). So it might not be a lost cause yet. Don't expect much, but don't completely give up until you've investigated further.

Also, I must warn you of more bad advice. You should not tell him about how you feel until after he's single again, or at least until he's thinking seriously about breaking up. If he really likes his new gf, he will not be able to tell you anything to make you feel better and it will then be harder to talk to him as a friend. And someone suggested writing a letter? Give me a break. Granted, that would have been my first instinct when I was in high school, but I have since learned that writing letters can make you look sappy and they can also cause trouble. When you write something, be CERTAIN that it's what you want to say and that it will not hurt you. In particular, wait a while and read over it a few times to make sure you don't sound bad. Your emotional state of mind could cause you to write some weird stuff. That's why I think love letters are a bad idea in general. Have a nice day!

Answer 2

This is a very difficult situation. . . If you tell him that you like him now, then he might be upset because it looks like you're trying to come between him and his girlfriend. At the same time, if you keep hiding your feelings, you will continue to get hurt, and it will only get worse. It's possible that he only started dating this new girl because he thought that things would never work with you (I've done that). I think that you're best option is to level with him, and explain things completely. Talk to him, or write him a letter, what ever works best for you, and explain how you feel, and that you would never want to come between him and his girlfriend. Honesty is alway the best route, but often one of the hardest to walk.

As the guy, I would want to know. It might lead to a very hard choice, but it's better then always wondering 'what if . . . '

Answer 3

Do not try to date him or even act like you are interested in him---the dude is off the market---if he notices you or wants to be with you, then he will leave his girlfirend, but don't you be the "other woman" and come between them and face the anger of his girlfriend, because we all know that there is nothing like an angry woman who has been rejected, especially for another woman.

Answer 4

hey don't be down..OK!! just hang out with him like you always do. when you here they broke up Chere him up,but don't tell him you like him yet... when he feels a lot better ask him if any guy would like to go out with you. then say hypothetically speaking if i would have said i liked you what would you say? OK then he gets a hint if he say no you say OK not like a duel way just the way you would talk to him...

Answer 5

don't tell him anything, wait to see if this relationship he has works out. if it doesn't be the friend he'll need, and then tell him how you feel about him. doing it now will not only ruin your friendship but any kind of relationship you could of had.

Answer 6

women/women individuals are many times bi-curious, and arent afraid to precise thoughts to one yet another. They hug, kiss, flow to the bathing room mutually, and stuff like that. yet while men do it, it somewhat is incorrect, and gay.

Answer 7

if he liked you back, then he would break up with his gf and go for you. let them end there relationship and then be the first to let him know you like him.

Answer 8

don't tell him
let him find happiness in that relationship
he's off limits now