why am i feeling like this?

Question

I met a guy online about three years ago while i was selling an extra concert ticket. come to find out that he lived less than a mile from me. we met and things where real nice. we dated for about two years and than out of the blue he emailed me to tell me that he met some girl on e-harmony and that in order to be fair to her, we could not speak again. i was so upset, but about after a mnth i was doing better. about 2 mnths later i got an im from him saying that he wanted to talk. so we did. he said he mae a big mistake and wanted to slowly do things right for the both of us. so stupid me took him back. Now he wants to move away because he cant keep a job here and told me he wants to remain friends. thing is he wont call me back and we dont talk for days on end. He used to come over alot because his mom and dad dove him crazy. if this happened to my friends, i would tell them to dump the loser, but for some reason, i thinki still love him and my world seems to be crashing. the thing is

I should be mad, but i am so so sad. to the point where i do not want to get dressed and he is all i think about. I do not know why i am feeling this way.serious answers please!!

and he is freaking 30 yrs old. I do not know why i cant be mad. like i said, if this happened to a friend, i would tell her to lose him

Answer 1

I know what you're going through
you know what you'll probably have to do?

Go Through The Depression
Bang on walls, cry, smash things, write in your journal, talk to your friends for hours on end about this dude. Do everything that you can or that you have to do to deal with the pain, and maybe even one day be over it.
'Cause even if you never really forget, you may sometimes think about him, without being overwraught with pain. And you can live, and do things you need to do in your life, without being hung up on him. And you can have healthier relationships, having learned your lessons, and moving on.

'Cause he's coming in and out of your life like he doesn't really know what he's doing either, and you do. You can't be babysitting, and being his yo-yo girl while he tries to figure out what he wants. You're worth more than that. If that's all he sees in you and wants from you, he can just go somewhere sit down.

Think about it, these are precious minutes, precious hours, from your life, that you are grieving. All of it is valuable, 'cause you are grieving, you need time to get over him. But the longer you date him, the more grieving it will be. You're not getting a lot of love out of him. If you put your grieving and "the love" on a balance, which one would outweigh the other? The grieving. That's why he's not worth it, and you need to leave him alone. And get a better guy.