I dated this guy for like 3 months, then left for college far away, but I see him once a month. So we are still dating but in an open relationship. I want him to commit to just me but I haven't had sex with him. I'm a virgin, will I regret it?
2006-12-09 09:08:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not a virgin, and we have done everything else though. I know he likes me but I don't think he will love me until I have sex with him.
2006-12-09 09:10:20 · update #1
Love does NOT equal sex! Let me be real with you here.I am a guy.Just because I have sex with a girl, it does not mean I like her.It just means I got laid.You can't make someone like you more.Having sex will not make him commit to you.From a first hand experience, a relationship based on sex is a horrible thing.It all came apart after a few short months.When the sex was gone, we didn't have anything else in common.Save your virginity for someone who loves you for you, not for what you do for them.I lost my virginity to a girl who I loved very much, and our relationship didn't work out.We weren't compatible in the long run, but I don't regret having sex with her because I truly loved her.Don't throw something special away on a guy who might not appreciate you.
2006-12-09 09:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! Sex and Like go together. If its you who is thinking about it more than him, then you may be the one with the problem about your virginity. Virginity is a religious thing. The natural feelings you have about sexual intimacy will let you know when you are ready for sex. Use protection when you do take the step and enjoy. You'll find out that you may like the guy more than you think. But as for him, I'm sure he will like you as he did before. If his feelings for you are sincere and can stretch all the way to your college and remain firm, then you have nothing to worry about. If he is not as sincere as you thought then sex with him was just one those little things that happened in your life. Love is not Sex. When two people love each other, virginity takes a back seat.
So have fun and travel and don't get bogged down with religious dogma.
2006-12-09 09:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by San Luis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I did. I am 21 and I regret having sex! It's not worth it. I have found the man of my dreams and you have no idea what I would do to erase all the guys I slept with just to be a virgin the first time me and my fiance had sex. I cried so hard when he asked me who I slept with. It didn't hurt me because I thought he'd be mad, it hurt me that he was something I should have given the best to and now I have so many memories and regrets that if I could change 1 thing, it would be to have my virginity back!!! I thought sex would make guys like me more, but it made them like me less! You have no idea what I would give to go back to being "the sexy virgin"(my nickname) that had respect again!!! sonnygirl0303@yahoo.com
2006-12-09 09:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by sonnygirl0303 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, having sex with him could make him love you more, but then again it could make the guy feel like since you two have already had sex, there is no point of seeing each other more, and your relationship could get ruined. then if you break up and realized you lost your virginity to him and he turned out to be a complete jerk, then you wouldn't have anything to share with that special someone after you get married. So basically I am saying that you shouldn't have sex with him if you think it will make him love you more than he already does.
2006-12-09 09:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by maggiemay4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love and sex are not exclusivley intwined. You can have sex and not be in love with person and visa versa.
You need to be ready emotionally to have a sexual relationship. There are certain responsibilties to yourself and the other person if you decide to do this. If you have sex with him will your relationship stay "open"?
Sex wont make him committ. He's either committed now or not at all. Remember that your at college and away from him, I dont think that you should committ. I also think that you should think long and hard about whether or not this is the man you want to lose your virginity too. You always remember who you lost "it" too, so think carefully.
Good Luck
2006-12-09 09:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex will not make him love you. Have sex with him because you want to have sex, but never for any other reason!
Honestly, in all statistical likeliness, you're not going to marry this guy or anything, so if you like him enough, have sex with him... You'll have many other sexual partners over your lifetime.
2006-12-09 09:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by Quagmire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having sex can bring a relationship closer but don't do it if you're not ready. Make sure he really cares before you ever think about going that far. Hook-ups don't turn into relationships.
2006-12-09 09:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex doesn't mean love. I don't think you should do it until you are ready. But in my opinion, yes, you will regret it. Wait for someone you know will commit to you, and you can see each more than just once a month.
2006-12-09 09:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You don't have sex to make someone love you, you have sex because you love someone. If he makes you feel this way, yes you will regret it.
2006-12-09 09:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
# 1 listen to yourself..you don't think he'll love you until you have sex with him... I think its time that you stepped up and end the relationship because he will never be commited....protect yourself.....Find a man who will respect you and your virginity and be faithful to you that means no open relationships even if you agree to it....its just not worth the havac and effort....
2006-12-09 09:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by autumn w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋