Alright, I'm 18 years old, I am being stalked by a 14 year old, (stop laughing!!) He wasn't so bad when I had a boyfriend, but now that's all over, he's constantly emailing me and asking me out. I've said that I'm not interested and I'm far too old for him but the words just bounce off him! What can I do to finally get him off my back? (ha ha not literally)
Any 6ft + guys fancy going out with me and taking care of the boy?
2006-12-09 08:57:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hire a hit man firm but fair
2006-12-09 09:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Geeze, come on..he's 14 and has a crush. You should be flattered and help the kid out instead of messing up his mind permanently.
Sit down with him and give him a little bit of attention. Tell him he is a really nice kid and explain that he just has a crush on you, and you are flattered and maybe things would be different if you were younger. Be nice to him, but don't lead him on. It sounds like you already have...you said you put up with it before but now all of a sudden that your back on the hind for a man, it is bothering you. Be gentle with him..what comes around goes around....that much i can guarantee.
2006-12-09 09:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already talked to him, and I were in your shoe's I would print off all his e-mail's find out where the boy home is and talk to his mother if that is a bust than file charges against the kid if he is stalking you there are law's against that so stand up an do something about it.
2006-12-09 09:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by dheck03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Block his e-mail address, that sounds like the best way to get rid if he's sending you messages all the time. He'll soon get bored when his messages start bouncing back.
If you see him around, just ignore him and don't give him any encouragement. He's just a bit of a kid and he'll soon get the message.
2006-12-09 09:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by kpk 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. Try to stay away from him. Keep as much distance as you can. Don't sit near him at lunch, or on the bus or in class. If he follows you, hang out with some friends and walk around in a group. 2. Don't look at him! Don't make eye contact. Don't even glance. If you look at him, he will think you like him. If he looks at you, don't look back 3. Don't talk to him. If he talks to you, pretend that you didn't hear him. Don't look at him. Then it will be obvious that you heard him. If he asks you a question, look like you are working and are very busy. Then, speak to someone else. 4. Don't call him, text him or email him. If he calls you, don't pick up. If he text messages you or emails you, do not reply. Just delete it. 5. If he offers you a pencil or a marker or paper, don't take it. Don't ask him for a pencil or marker or whatever either. He will think you are trying to get his attention and you like him. 6. If he is around, flirt with another guy but make sure he sees you. Make sure it's not some random person. Make sure it is a guy you know and have some interest in. He should at least be you friend. 7. If he asks you out, say: "(His name), you're a nice guy, but i don't want to be your girlfriend." If you have a boyfriend, say so. Let him down. If you don't have a bf, say you are interested in someone else and need something more than him. Then walk away. If he keeps bugging you, say: "I've said no, and you should learn to accept a no. I don't like it when you follow me around. You need to learn that my feelings for you aren't the same as yours. I don't like that you aren't giving up on me, because you should. You have to stop." * Defend yourself. Let him know that you are serious and he needs to stop following you. * Ignoring him, not making eye contact, not talking to him or being near him will be some pretty obvious signs that you're not interested. * Don't insult him or be nasty. * Don't let him know that you are single. He'll think you are into him and trying to get him to ask you out. * Spend lots of time with other guys while he is watching. That way, he'll know that you aren't interested in him. * If you happen to meet him on the road, make your eye focused straight (not to him) then walk straight past him. If he try to talk to you or touched your on the arm, ward it off, then leave very fast. * He may be persistent and won't give up. Say what is in step 7. * He may stalk you, try to be with friends or other guys so he won't be able to talk to you. * Be alert, he may force to into something. Try to learn some self defence lesson.
2016-05-22 23:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't hurt his feelings, he's just 14, and it's not like he's TRYING to be annoying.
You could-
1. Sit him down and tell him you like him as a younger brother.
2. Or you could get him a girlfriend his age. (recommended)
2006-12-09 09:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by The Banana Person 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way to lose a stalker is by ignoring your email messages and stop talking to him. Delete him from your msn and just don't reply at all.
2006-12-09 09:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you prefer older guys and you just see him as a friend, tell him you've got your eye on someone. Don't reply to his emails or have any contact with him and he'll soon take the hint.
Is 5ft 10 ok? ;-)
2006-12-09 09:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and tell them what's going on. They can visit your young "friend" and give him the skinny on what happens if he continues his little drama. Good luck. Just don't get really confrontational with him...people nowadays are crazy. Good luck, be careful.
2006-12-09 09:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could always tell him that you see him as a little brother, and that going out with him would be illegal, as he is under age!! You could be sued!! If that fails, perhaps you need to be blunt and tell him to leave you allow otherwise you will tell his parents!! Good Luck
2006-12-09 09:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by lynne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋