My girlfriend of four years and I just broke up. I'm miserable and she seems happy. Her reasoning was that she needed more space and to experience something else, so she could be sure our relationship is what she wanted. How can I show her that I can be a part of her life but not all of it? It seems everytime I contact her she believes I am not allowing her the necessary space?? What should I do? I can't wait around forever. And even if i do how is not communicating at all going to help show her how great I am and how great we can be together?
2006-12-09 08:56:10 · 9 answers · asked by nickwetz2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is what you need to do. My boyfriend just broke up with me for the same reason.
DON'T CONTACT HER. Move on with your life. To give her the space she needs, show her that you CAN live without her and that you DO have a life outside of her. If you show her this, it will be very attractive to her and she will realize what she is missing.
The reason she is happy is because she felt so smothered when she was with you. Sometimes, she just wants to call you instead of you calling her all of the time.
Show her how "great" you are by not contacting her at all. Wait for her to contact you...and just assume that you are never going to be with her again. Yeah, it sucks, but if you keep in mind that this won't happen you will be so excited when it does, and less hurt if it doesn't happen again. She may need this time to realize that she wants you...
Sometimes it takes a person to be COMPLETELY out of your life (not contacting you) to realize that you want them. If you guys were together for 4 years, you better expect her to contact you...if she doesn't, move on,and she will realize it eventually. Maybe by then, you will realize that you don't need a girl who doesn't know what she wants.
2006-12-09 09:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are a part of her life too, and she can have her free time, but she needs to make time for you too, but it doesnt have to be 24/7. Try and not care what she does, she'll eventually stop it. You can call her once in a while and ask how is she doing, and saying you have to do something because you are busy yourself, and tell her how much you love her, without over doing it. Explain to her you are giving her what she wants, and you want her to give you what you want, and all yo ask of, is a little time for you too, try it. =)
2006-12-09 17:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by ThexSilentxOnex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out in the feild. start dating again, if you contact her shes just gonna think you are over bearing. Just tell her that shes a great person and you have had fun with her, then never call her again. She will get in touch with you withen a month
2006-12-09 17:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by mccombspac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for her to contact you... in the meantime do other things: date, pick up a hobby, hang out with your buddies, etc. She'll realize how great you are once you're not around. (it's one of those you never know what you have 'til it's gone sort of thing). just be patient.
2006-12-09 17:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt want you anymore. accept it and move on. cuz next thing that will happen is she will start dating someone new. leave her alone and go on. date someone. you only go around once. good luck
2006-12-09 17:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by cheezie72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude it's over. i'm sorry, but you have to accept this and move on. keeping on the thought of the relationship will only keep you in sorrow.
2006-12-09 17:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she wants to end it maybe u need to just take a short break n let her breath
2006-12-09 16:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so when did you start dating my ex? that sounds just like her! always had something better to do and seemed uninterested. screw her, move on!
2006-12-09 16:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by all in on the flop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont wait, start dating again, if she really wants you she will come to you
2006-12-09 16:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋