my husband got married 18 years ago this coming april 29 2007 . that makes me think does he regret our children also we have three girls 18, 17, 16, he made me very sadden the other night first he told me cheated on me while doing business in califorina yeah, right.
2006-12-09 08:52:45 · 16 answers · asked by clear morning 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Do NOT divorce him. There is hope. Go to Rejoice Marriage Ministries or Charlyne Cares. Your husband still loves you, but his mind (and body) have been taken captive by the enemy, satan. GOD bless you.
2006-12-09 09:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by woman of faith 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Almost nothing in life is more painful than being betrayed by a spouse. It rips at the heart and grieves the soul, and no one escapes unhurt. The Bible says, "Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So is he who sleeps with another man's wife" (Proverbs 6:28-29).
And I deliberately used the word "betrayed"—because when a husband or wife commits adultery, they are betraying the solemn vow of faithfulness they took when they were married. Not only have they betrayed their spouse, but they also have betrayed their vow to God. Jesus said, "Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate" (Matthew 19:6).
Can your marriage be restored? Yes, with God's help—but only if both you and your husband submit your lives to Christ and seek His help to begin again. And I have seen this happen, often in the face of almost impossible odds. But it won't happen if your husband refuses to turn away from his sin and renew his commitment to you and your marriage.
Pray for your husband, that he will see the foolishness of his ways and repent of his sin. And ask God also for patience, because you don't know what the future holds. But no matter what happens, with Christ you are never alone, and His love will never fail. Open your heart and life to Him today.
2006-12-09 17:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sweetheart,Hes just a superficial ***.If he could say such cruel things,let him go.He's not worth one tear,if that's all he could come up with after 18 years.Sweetie you still have life before you.He cheated,he will do it again.He has huge issues,God still has a plan for your life.I'm sure you are in deep grieving,after 18 years but if he's not ,then that's who has been all along.Cry for a week,lay in your bed and grieve,but Darling you need to move on after that.Get a new you,change your hair,buy some new cloths,get a good councilor,He is not worth your tears after that.Some are not worthy of the LOVE we have given them.You are worth being loved,LOVE yourself now.You can choose to forgive him,but if he is not truly sorry,then it is useless.God can restore a marriage but it takes 2 for that kind of healing.If I were you I would ask God into this situation,into my life,and his.You do need to forgive him for yourself,even if the marriage is over.Remember God fearfully and wonderfully made you,He knew you before you were made.Therefore you are significant,I urge you to find a christian councilor.This matter really shows how I have some bitterness,due to a previous marriage.He cheated on me,abused me,and my child.But God delivered me out.He can heal up the broken hearted.Be loved
2006-12-09 17:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he tell you he does not want to be married anymore? He did commit adultery which is the one exception of divorce...in God's eyes. What do you want to do? Do you forgive him? Did he tell you he wants to be with someone else? If he has no regret or conviction and could care less, I would say yes divorce him- I would pray about this though- Are you a christian?
2006-12-09 16:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mandolyn Monkey Munch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear you are having problems- but something spurred them on-- I am not pointing the finger at anyone and I am not condoning what he did- all I am saying is this- do you love him? do you want him around? are you willing to let him go and make your children unhappy? if you love him- then it is up to you to make him Want to stay. as women we sometimes have to do things that we may not want to do- i will say sorry to my husband even if i feel he initiated the argument because i love him and want to have a happy life together and two little words and my stubborn pride don't have a place in a marriage- your choice
2006-12-09 17:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by drox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he regrets, he is free to leave.
I am very sorry for what you are going through. I imagine it must be terrible. I hope you are not thinking htat it is because you are inadequate. The problem is his, completely. Frankly, he is acting like a cad, and doesn't deserve you.
I would suggest that you tell him if he doesn't want a divorce, you insist on marital counselling (if you are willing to see it through yourself).
2006-12-09 17:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to resolve the conflict first. Maybe there's more to the problem you can fix before going down the path of divorce.
2006-12-09 16:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by shegothebomb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, show him the door and tell him not to let it hit him in the a-- on the way out! That way you can show him the regret you feel for marrying him!
2006-12-09 16:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must do what you feel in your heart is the right thing to do. suggest you talk with him to gain his real feelings and if you both want to save the marriage then get some marriage counseling.
2006-12-09 17:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't be a doormat - divorce him. Your kids will be grown in 2 years.
2006-12-09 16:57:13 · answer #10 · answered by Alan 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋