I had been seeing this guy for quite a few months but 3 weeks ago ended things. This was because we both agreed things would be kept casual due to our busy jobs/schedules but I began to develop deep feelings for him. When I told him (via txt) as he was abroad at the time he wrote that he understood because he felt the same way and for me to ring if I wanted to talk. I didn't call. Instead I've been regretting ending it ever since. So the other day i sent him an email wishing him good luck for an important meeting he was having and he replied back saying thanks and how he'd recently gone to a gallery opening which I would have liked. Now what? I feel so stupid going back on my words and he hasn't mentioned anything either....but I truely regret this. Advice please.
2006-12-09 08:36:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
call him...it doesn't sound like he's mad about it.
2006-12-09 08:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to analyze why you're feeling regret. You mentioned that you both had busy schedules. Ask yourself this: If you thought this relationship would develop into something more serious, would you have still split up? Is it possible that, since you've broken up, you have idealized the relationship an are now feeling remorse?
If you truely believe that the relationship could go somewhere and are really wanting to get back together with him, let him know. You'll continue to carry this regret until you do.
2006-12-09 08:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by Memphis Lawdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel stupid about it, because clearly he doesn't. He's still thinking of you obviously, as he mentioned about the gallery opening. It looks like you both enjoy spending time together. I don't understand why people fight so hard to not care about each other. It's okay that you have feelings for him. I wouldn't be surprised if he had feelings for you. Spend time with him and just see where it goes. It could be a friendship, or it could be more. Why do you feel like you have to plan and orchestrate things, deciding when and how and what you'll feel for someone else? Just go with it (whatever it might be) and enjoy your time together. It's not a crime, and it doesn't make you look stupid. But if stupid is how you're feeling for pushing him away when you really want to be with him, then fix it and just be with him. He doesn't seem to be fighting it. Not only that, but it seems like you may have actually stumbled onto someone who will understand a busy job/schedule as part of your life and part of your relationship without condemning you for it. You seem to have someone who fits really well, so rather than waste it, just go along and see what comes of it. What could you possibly have to lose? It seems as though you've lost more by pushing him away than by being with him and caring about him. Good luck.
2006-12-09 08:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to pursue a relationship with him, call him and let him know. Apologize for not contacting him sooner, but let him know that you've been staying away because you wanted to get things straight in your head. Make sure you don't insist on a relationship with him - just let him know how you feel and let him then make the first move. Don't have any more regrets by avoiding him altogether - it will only make it worse. At the end of the day, you will be content to know that you did your part in telling him how you feel. Good luck.
2006-12-09 08:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 01:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just let him know how you seriously feel, who knows he might feel the same.. just let him know that you care for him so much and you don't want to be with anyone else and you'd rather be in a relationship with him and still deal with the whole busy schedules instead of wanting him everyday and regretting that things aren't different.. just be open and honest and things will work out they way they should have.. i wish nothing but the best for you, good luck!
2006-12-09 08:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing what you both agreed to do, keeping it casual. This is not a bad thing. Occasionally get in touch with him. Maybe ask him out to dinner. Then see if he returns the invitation. If he does then things may work out for the two of you in the future. But, don't pressure him or yourself.
2006-12-09 08:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by m2little 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your gut....e-mail him back and casually let him know you miss him and the stuff you guys used to do, then wait a see what his responce is. If he too misses you, then perhaps you can sent him another e-mail that indicates you feel your relationship needs to be re-tweaked a bit. Then see how he feels. Just take it one step at a time. If all goes well, you should be able to e-mail yourself right back into his life. God Bless!
2006-12-09 08:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by Dalia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regret is common because you feel u hurt his feelings and ur intentions wasnt to do that. There was a reason u wanted to keep it casual. Plenty fish in the sea.
2006-12-09 08:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by drsmokeitup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him and can't get him out of your mind then hes suppose to be there go after him don't let him go you may regret that even more then you do by braking up with him!
2006-12-09 08:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by jamin_hot_body 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time ask him out and tell him that you are thinking about him and would love to have that chat its never too late so quit regretting and start communicating with him
2006-12-09 08:40:13 · answer #11 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋