My husband ordered some things from a boy who was about 9 or 10, who had come to our door. It was a school fundraiser.
The items never came.
Yesterday, the school principal phoned, said that the boy had not turned in his sale papers, nor his cash. The principal said that he would mail out the $20 my husband had paid the boy for the items.
I think it would be a better lesson for the boy if he were made to go, with an adult, and apologize to all people who had placed an order with him. He should return their money, himself.
My hubby says I am being silly. Having the money mailed back is enough.
Do you agree with hubby or with me?
2006-12-09 08:25:41 · 28 answers · asked by kiwi 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
No, I agree with you. I'm sure the boy is being punished by the school, but they can't force him to apologize, only his parents can do that.
Although if my kid did that, we would be going to every person's house and apologizing and he would be working off his debt by mowing their lawns and such.
2006-12-10 03:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by tangyterp83 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree that the boy should go to each and every house to return the money. I think most parents with any decency about them would make there child go to the houses. This is what is wrong with kids today. If he was made to return the money he might have second thoughts about stealing in the future. I also think the child working the money off by doing extra work for the school would be a very good plan.
2006-12-09 08:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by letfreedomring 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the boy took the money then I think the boy should apologize in some way, either by writing a note to everyone or going to their door and doing it in person. But, who actually took the money? It could have been taken away from him at home or by others. That is what would determine what the lesson should be.
2006-12-09 14:53:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOTH are right, yet your husband makes more sense. Your request is not silly or unreasonable; however, it is not your child that did this and the parents would be embarressed enough just by finding out about it, and they probably already punished him. Also, you do not know the circumstances why he did not turn them in, maybe someone took the money and he couldn't. So with keeping these things in mind, I would say just go with your hubby on this one, but never order from the kid again.
2006-12-10 17:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you.
Hopefully the school and/or his parents are punishing him. You might ask the principal about this. I think you are as entitled to know how this was resolved as is the victim of any crime.
Though I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, I think one thing he should do is return the money to you with an apology (hopefully that would not be the only punishment).
You might suggest it to the prinicpal. But I guess that is all you can do.
2006-12-10 11:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a good chance the boy's PARENTS kept the cash. I am very active in my children's' grade school and I am constantly surprised at how often parents do just that! Poor little critters are so simply honest, they'll say, "I don't have the money cuz Mom said she needed it for ..." same story and often from the same families again and again. Sad stuff on many levels. If the child took it, I bet the principal would have ordered just what you suggested. (ours would) Don't be angry anymore, just feel sorry for him.
2006-12-09 16:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened in the town that i live in a cheerleader was selling blankets and noone got the blanket that they ordered from this specific cheerleader...she war required to write a letter to the paper apoligizing for the dead that she did to all those innocent people....i do not think that you are being silly i think they should face up to the fact that they ripped people off having the principal give you the money doesn't do any good...if anything that boy should have to go door to door and return the money that he took and explain why he is returning it...
2006-12-09 17:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by buschchick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. When he's 18 years old and steals again (which is essentially what he did) will somebody mail back the money again or will he have to stand up in court and admit what he did. I think it would be a good lesson. I'm sure he can't pay the money back but standing there trying to apologize to you is payback enough.
2006-12-09 11:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by Kennedy & Kevin's mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just another reason why schools should not use this type of fundraiser. Respectable charities have given up on this for exactly this reason - children are just not dependable revenue streams (except when they are chained to sewing machines). Give the kid a break. Someone else suggested his parents might have taken the money, and I believe that is probably the case.
2006-12-11 10:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by MGREY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the hubby b/c he obviously doesn't have any parent who has been around in the first place it is the parents who should be monitoring so if they aren't the parents should come and apologize with the child. But hey if you get the money don't stress b/c its not worth it.
2006-12-09 11:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your husband. There may be more to the story than you know. You can't assume the boy stole the money. If the principal is taking care of it, stay out of it.
2006-12-09 16:13:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋