I am sort of selfish and I think too much about myself. I don't know if I would want to give all my attention to soemone else or not. I have anger problems and I like to intimidate people, and I hate love when I'm in a bad mood.. But I'm not always this way. If I'm in a good mood, I am not selfish and I am happy with no care in the world, and I would be more than happy to love someoene.. What should I do?
2006-12-09 08:17:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We all have faults, dude!
Nearly everyone is selfish. Take someone who seems like the nicest person in the world. They'll go into McDonalds, order a burger made from a murdered cow, walk outside, straight past the homeless guy laying on the ground, straight past the woman collecting money for starving children without a single shred of compassion and just because they smile a lot, people act like they're essential company.
Admitting you're selfish + have these other issues is a good start. Being selfish is a really bad trait to bring into a relationship- I'm sure there's dozens of people who have kicked a partner to the kerb because they were a headstrong jerk.
Maybe you're not as bad as you say- or perhaps you're worse! Only you can be the judge of that. Some selfish people flaunt their selfishness, thinking that women find men acting like twits irresistible (they're wrong!). Unless you go round telling people how brilliant you are and how lucky they should feel to be in your company, then maybe you're not that bad.
Perhaps a nice girl would help you be a better person, or worse, maybe you'll create a doomed relationship.
2007 is coming up. Why not make a resolution to chill out, and find yourself a woman for the new year!
2006-12-09 08:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by midsojo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good, judging through how she's all tousled in her relationships (2 boyfriends whilst) she could say sure and simply use you to cheer up after which sell off you. I'd say that is a little bit of a grey field. But should you relatively believe she's that beautiful and you do not brain what occurs later then yep you are correct two possibly three weeks and your golden. the opposite one will most of the time get jealous, however should you men do not speak she'll recover from you and transfer on and you'll be able to under no circumstances have that danger once more... which could suck if she truthfully is that beautiful :L You gotta come to a decision which lady you favor extra. due to the fact should you opt for one your gonna fail to spot the opposite. the dancing factor: I individually believe that could be relatively adorable xP however a few women could be like.. wtf?? i assume it is determined by the way you pull it off - like if you are a relatively humorous no longer awkward man you are golden with that. But should you come of tacky it is recreation over. Hope i would support :P
2016-09-03 09:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by willsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should probably wait a while before you try getting into a relationship with someone. You said it yourself, you have selfishness and anger issues to work on, and you seem really moody. It's unfair to expect another person to cater to your mood swings, be close to you only when you feel like it and then put their own needs and feelings aside when you start acting selfish or crabby. Sort out these issues first, so that when you do get into a relationship, it can be successful.
Also, don't get into a relationship because you think it will "fix" these personality flaws of yours. People don't change because they are with someone else. They change because they are ready.
2006-12-09 08:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you should seek some kind of help, you should try surrounding yourself with friends and other people then try being in a relationship because if you dont, once you get into a relationship there will be problems from the start.....Some, if not all women can be dificult and by you having anger problems and being selfish, etc......The situation wont get any better
2006-12-09 08:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not as bad as you think are, each one of us is selfish, you are not the only one, why do people want relatioships, so they can make themselves happy, it is only when you have been together for a really long time that u start caring about the other person, and that comes from inside, it needs no training.
but about ur question, it is not so much about whether u should or not get a gf it's about whether u can.lol
2006-12-09 08:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by virgodoll 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should list your priorities right now, do you think you can take the responsibility of having a gf?
Don' go hunting for a girl just because you feel the need to, if you feel lonely you can always make some new friends, hang out with them.
I think you should just chill out and enjoy your time for now, a girl can add up to your happiness or destroy you, depends on which one you go for, so before simply plunging in do a bit of personal assessment and figure out your thoughts on love and see if there is anyone out there who shares the same thoughts...i am sure there is!
2006-12-09 08:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Usman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure if you should jump into a relationship right now. I think that you may need to work on your anger problem first. Especially, itimidating your love one is not a healthy relationship. Of course, nobody is lovey dovey with someone when they are in a bad mood, but hating it is a different level.
In my honest opinion, I think that first you may need to evaluate yourself and work on your anger problem and selfishness before you try to love someone else.
Good luck.
2006-12-09 08:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by healthnut 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to be more kind to people and the people that want to be your friends will be kind to you and give you advice that will make you a better person.
You want to be a better person, right?
Find friends, talk with as many people as possible and be kind to them, then ask some girls out.
How old are you? Please specify in a comment... it is important if you want to get a good answer. I suppose you are 13-17 years old, right?
2006-12-09 08:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by iDontKnowWhatToDo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know. I don't think that it would be best to get in a relationship when you have these characteristic, but if you think that being in a relationship will help you change, then you should find someone...only if it means that you will change for the better
2006-12-09 08:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude you were just asking in an other question how easy it is to get a girl now your wondering if ya should...personally i think you need to rexamine what you want then go be bye your self cause it seem you have a few issues
2006-12-09 08:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋