we will get into fights and she will just go on like nothing even affected her and if something is clearly her fault she turns it around as her being innocent....is she really being affected and care AND does she know if she messes up?
2006-12-09 08:14:06 · 21 answers · asked by peter r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Quit fighting with your girlfriend.
2006-12-09 08:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let go of the need to decide who is at fault. She may be able to move through a tense issue more quickly than you. Guys have a tendency to want to pin things down to elaborate detail. It is a defect we have, I say that because I am guilty of it as well, though I make a serious attempt not to. Another observation is that women will go along way to avoid admission of fault, I think that is because men tend to use that later on to "blend" their arguments. There are some rules to arguments one of which is to keep them current, not throwing the past into a current issue. Women just like men have guards against certain behaviors in a relationship. It is very hard to step out of your anger or hurt and look at her motivation for her actions. After the smoke clears, try to sit down and agree what the ground rules are when arguing, then convince yourself of what the value is of placing blame and fault it changes nothing and is destructive. Hard to do but worth it.
Another thing when a fight is over, work very hard at just letting it go. Concentrate on the make up sex :-)
2006-12-09 08:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by Last of four brothers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her state of apathy might be caused by something like depression. It's easy to lose yourself after being sad for so long.
Of course she might just be oblivious. But maybe she just doesn't want to try anymore. That kind of thing generally happens to the boy/man the relationship. But now you...you know how --generally--the girl/woman feels. Like you're mirror-opposite of the stereotypical scenario. But that's another topic...
Nevermind. I can't give you a precise answer because I don't know enough about your fights. But it sounds like either 1.she's depressed, 2.she doesn't want to be with you any longer, or 3.she's just stopped trying
2006-12-09 08:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by filia_san 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are the types of things that women are compelled to do quite often, and it's the reason a lot of marriages fall apart. You don't want to conduct business as usual, and if she's wrong, she needs to apologize.
Most importantly, make certain that you always remain calm yourself, and don't be the one to be thrown out of control. If she doesn't come around, you might have to wind up letting her go, as someone suggested above.
I assure you, she's testing you as women are prone to do. Gather within yourself the wisdom, grace, maturity and love to deal with it properly. Most men don't.
2006-12-09 08:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 00:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are so into themselves that they just don't care about others feelings. She knows but apparently behaving the way she does upsets you and that in itself is a victory.
2006-12-09 08:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by pretty_brown_eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just not willing to admit a mistake. Talk to her see what she really has to say......Ask her if she gets upset that you two fight or if she is really not bothered by it.....If she is upset then normal if she isn't the deranged!!!
2006-12-09 08:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by dragonflyaway69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have been in a similar situation and most of the time he was just over-reacting......when you do argue make sure its something worth arguing about....because if not it can ruin and possibly end the relationship....
2006-12-09 08:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by cc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she thinks she can manipulate you into thinking that she is innocent because she just wants to see how much you really care for her...trust me all you should do is tell her that she`s really hurting you and she will react then
2006-12-09 08:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your girlfriend might just not want to seem weak to you, she may not want to feel embarassed around you. she probably does feel bad but she doesnt want to show her real feelings around so she doesnt feel "small". I have a friend who acts like this around guys too. She may just want you to think shes tough.
2006-12-09 08:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by xoTcF13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋