He is my sons' father. He says he still loves me and would rather spend the rest of his life with us (his son and I). Should I give him another chance?
2006-12-09 08:12:06 · 17 answers · asked by umm_sateer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes if he can prove to you he has learned from his experience, take a step back and make him realize your life will go on with or without him don't make it easy for him make him sweat for a while let him know it is a privilege he is a part of your life and someone else would be honored to have you and give you the happiness you deserve time will tell if he truly has learned from mistake and understands or if he just wants to make sure he can still have you
2006-12-09 08:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by undeniable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe him? Do you love him? My sons dad realized I was the one, after he married someone else...that made our relationship rather difficult, all we ever did was hold each for a few minutes when he would come to see our son. It was the the worst and the best feeling, very forlorn yet I always knew he loved me. Now he has passed away and all I have is the memory and our son. I could have had more of a relationship with him, nothing ever would have happened, but he wanted us closer to him and his family.......I didn't do that because I felt like I should stay with my daughters fathers even though we weren't married and didnt' bother to marry until she was four....do you see the complications? It is better to be with your sons father than to end up having to choose whos father to be closer too should that happen........and eventually odds are it will happen. So, if you love the man, unconditionally, you might want to give him the chance. Unconditionally doesn't mean you will let him treat you or your son badly, it doesn't mean you will let him get away with anything....it just means you love him.......you allow him to see what a wonderful person you are.....does that make sense?
2006-12-09 08:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the whole situation. How often has he cheated on you? What was he like when you were with him? Was he a good father? Did he treat you well when he was with you? Was he trustworthy? How do you know he won't leave you and your son again for someone else? You would be taking a huge gamble with this guy if you take him back. He may end up hurting you and your son again. If he truly wants the both of you in his life again... it may actually be good for the both of you. You really need to think about what is best for you and your son. Good luck!
2006-12-09 08:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by Soul saviour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is up to you of course. But he has made it clear that you are not a great catch and if something else comes along he will leave again.
So if you take him back just be ready for him to leave again. He is the father of your child, and if he helps you raise your child this might be best for your child.
I would say do not depend on this person. Make sure you can support yourself and your child on your own.
Good luck with your decision!
2006-12-09 08:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How hard did he hurt you? Do you fell like he'll do it again? Does you're son want him back? ask you'reself these Questions. If you answered positive to at least two of these Questions. Give him another chance. but if theres a 2nd time he leaves you, he should be out!
2006-12-09 08:17:30 · answer #5 · answered by Mel :D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A chance.... yes, if you love him. BUT.... make him jump through a few hoops first.... like counseling to deal with the past issues.... and I'd make him date me again first.... start a new relationship.... and no sex until you marry him. See how much he really loves and wants you.... and what he's willing to sacrifice. If he doesn't love you that much.... then he'll cheat on you again when a pretty face comes along.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-09 08:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time to seat it out. If you jump at taking him back he will know that it is easy to get back together and try it again. If you make him sweat and he runs off again then you have lost very little. If you make him sweat and he sticks it out then you know - maybe not for sure - but have a better idea.
2006-12-09 08:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't have a son together I would say heck no, but maybe you should give him another chance for your son. Make his fret over it awhile though.
2006-12-09 08:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a father, he deserves a second chance. For your love, maybe half of a chance. Depends - will he be a good little hubby?
2006-12-09 08:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No please be strong and try and keep him in your son's life ; but for your sanity stay away. Forgiveness takes along time and he has to prove to u its not just the sex he is after. Keep your distance , but he still has a right to visit with your son.
2006-12-09 08:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by expat0171 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋