Should I tell her the truth even if it is alot, or should I lie and go with a more conservitive number?
2006-12-09 07:47:29 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask her, "Why should it matter? I'm with YOU now..."
2006-12-09 07:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Topher 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
this is a good question.
I don't know why females ask a question that they know they reallly don't want the answer to.
if she asked you that means she may be insecure about her skills thinking maybe you have more experience than her or even vice versa.
I figure if you number is under 15 you can tell her the truth, of course depending on your age.. if you are 15 then you'll need to lower it. but if your over 21 this seems decent cause you can blame it on your younger years and tell her " It didn't mean anything, I wans't thinking with the right head when i was younger"
now if your number is extremely over 15 then you definately should lie and tell her a decent amount.. don't say like 1 or 2 cause then if a situation comes up where you accidentally run into an old fling while your with her it will cause problems..
by the way did you ask her in return, cause if she feels the right to ask you than you have the right to do the same, of course if you actually want to know.
2006-12-09 08:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by babyg1rl_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how long have you known her and if she is in love with you or trying to decide weather to get serious in your relationship.
Tell her that there is a big difference between casual sex and love making, so an actual number is not so much the issue here.
Most people would not want to be with someone who is promiscuous and undiscriminating as to his or her choice of endless sexual partners. If you truly care about this girl I suggest to mention only a few who you truly felt for emotionally and meant something to you other then a casual encounter. Tell her that the past is done with and you are looking forward to being with her and making new memories that belong to the two of you only. Make her feel special and loved and unique. That is what she really wants to know; Your girlfriend does not want to be another notch on your bedpost. Get some roses and let the loving begin!
2006-12-09 07:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell the truth, then she's bound to think youre a man-whore (Im guessing your number is a little up there? Like more than 10?)
I suggest that you either LIE........which is never good, or you tell her this:
"I'm not going to answer that. I certainly dont want to know about your past experience. What's in the past is just that. Let's focus on us."
That way, you dont come off as sleazy AND you dont have to lie to her.
2006-12-09 07:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by sierraskyesmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man's number is his own business just like a woman's number. What is important is that your clean and healthy. Avoid answering, or if she presses you...say the number of women you have had a real relationship with. So in other words, lie. Unless, you think she can handle the truth. Most women can't and are intensely jealous.
2006-12-09 07:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with your girl. If your were to ask her that question would you want her to lie to you or be honest? It about have trust in a relationship and if you lie to her and she finds out another way then the trust she has for you will be out the window. If you and your girl have that kind of relationship were you each can forgive each other and move on then tell her. Keep this in mind she may already know how many girls you have mess around with and she is just testing you to find out if you are going to lie to her about it. When you thinks she doesn't know something about whatever nines times out ten she already know and she just want to see if your going to bring it up. Go ahead and it over with, you are just worrying yourself.
2006-12-09 08:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by SouthernGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever have a relationship created on lies. Tell her the truth because she deserves to know. You have to take that chance no matter what her reaction could be. Hey, it's in the past and if there were no diseases then why would she take it in a bad way ? By the way, she has a right to know about diseases( STD )
too ! Good luck.
2006-12-09 07:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf and I just had this talk a couple of nights ago, We both told our # and I didn't lie, I figure what I did before him is my business, and if he really wants to know then handle it! He told he his witch was more than mine but not outrageous, and I told him good for him, cause I kinda thought it would be less. Then we just laughed for a little bit. Don't lie unless it's like 100+ but she'll probably be able to tell by for nastiness then.
2006-12-09 07:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by VEGAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would lie up, tell her a number that is at least six times the real number and say it's tough to remember or actually get an accurate count since some of the parties you you to go to you would have sex with 20-30 women but only for a few minutes each....tha should make her feel ok.
2006-12-09 07:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by BOISE_DD 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She has every right to know how many girls you have been with. What kind of boyfriend would lie to their girlfriend like that, especially a lie that she most likely will find out the truth?
2006-12-09 07:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should absolutely tell her the truth. What's the point of answering at all if you're going to lie! She may not like your answer and she may be upset at first, but really, if she cares for you she's going to understand it's in the past (if she's mature as well). Don't even answer if you're going to lie.
2006-12-09 07:50:19 · answer #11 · answered by Lori E 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋