Depressed and DeMotivated, Need peoples help and time?

Question

I am Eighteen years of age and am so demotivated you will find it difficult to believe. I have the opportunity to go on my first date with a girl but I am Gay and therefore am hesitant. I am so demotivated and therefore lazy...I care little about my Jan A level exams and am basically still at sixth form for the company....I love a great game of Poker and play often but other than that I am a drunken old or young fool when it comes to the world of school. I am not a chava and never have or will be one but lately I have become so distached from Sixth form...Part of it is I really fancy a boy at school and have had the whole is he gay or not thing and now I am not even bothered about him so much...I drink a lot but do not go out and therefore not only do I drink in excess I drink unsocially which I realise as a half educated guy I am taking more than a few steps to becoming an alcoholic or "heavy drinker"...I used to care about wealth and power but lately I am not bothered.This is wrong!

stone you are a very sensitive person Unfortunately i Cannot stop wanting a man on top of me

I am really depressed and how dare anyone say I am taking the piss I posted multiple posts because I have a real problem and need your help

Answer 1

Please, please get help. Either 'phone the Samaritans or talk to your doctor. There is help out there. Believe me. \good luck. Keep your pecker up.

Answer 2

Stop drinking NOW! Using alcohol as a crutch is a very bad idea. Alcohol dependence has destroyed many a lives. I've known gay people who've started drinking or using drugs when they were young to deal with the feelings of loneliness and rejection and they ended up in pretty bad shape. Get treatment for your depression. It's very treatable. Medication and/or psychotherapy are very beneficial. You also have to deal with being gay. Staying in the closet and trying to pass by dating girls is only going to make you more miserable in the long run. Try to find a gay support group in your area so you can talk to other gay people who are going through the same things.

Answer 3

Try to reduce your alcohol intake. Sometimes it can make you feel worse. Make sure you are eating and drinking healthily. Research gay pub and clubs in your area or chat on-line to other gay people (there are plenty of ways to chat to other gay men over the internet). This will help you realise you are not alone and feel less isolated. Forget about the guy you like at school-if he isn't gay you risk a bit of an embarrassing way to come out. Instead build your confidence by getting healthy in body and healthy in mind. Come out if you feel strong enough then when you're out the guy might (if he's gay) realise that he can come out too, or at least approach you if the feeling's mutual. Keep your chin up dude, everyone goes through **** at about your age, gay or not. I'm sure in years to come you'll look back on this time and see that it's made you a strong, insightful and interesting person. No one finds it easy to come out but you'd be amazed by how supportive people will be when you do.

Answer 4

Well I can only help you with part of your question as I can relate to it. It sounds like you're in some sort of prep/boarding school, (sixth form gave it away). When I was at my boarding school, my senior year was very stressful. I had to worry about getting good scores on the sat and act, getting accepted into a prestigous university, and being social with friends, family, and school board comittees.
All this pressure drove me to drinking. It would start out just a few beers here and there, then I started to build a tollerance and started drinking hard liquor. I was convincing myself that by drinking everything would work itself out.
Fast forward a few years, I found myself in college and before I know it, it's my fourth year and I get a notice that I have flunked out of school. Yeah I was still drinking, as a matter of fact 10-15 beers a day.
Continuing to fast forward, I found myself working for corporate america. The motto was "we work hard and play even harder", meaning after a very stressful day at work we would go and "blow some steam off". It started as a few stiff drinks and then one co-worker decided to share his cocaine. This lifestyle went on for about three years. I found myself polishing off a 1.75 liter handle of 100 proof vodka every 2 days.
I have since left that job and am currently seeking council for depression and alcoholism. I share this with you because I started out just trying to find a quick fix to my problems. When all I really needed to do was face them and conquer them. I'm a stronger person now and wouldn't change anything because the past is what makes you who you are today.
As far as being gay, just do it man, you don't want to look back and say "What if?" So get off your bum and make the best out of it.

Good luck

Answer 5

You can only be depressed about being Gay for so long...

I have news for you -- YOU MIGHT ALREADY BE AN ALCOHOLIC... don't act like it's something waiting for you in the future.... how much did you drink today?

Yes... nobody likes a gay boy and blah blah blah...

Tust me, deal with the alcoholism now... the rest will be easier when you've conquered that demon... 12 step Anonymous programs are free of charge... just look up a meeting and go to it.

Answer 6

if you are gay you would not consider going on a date with a girl point one point 2 everyone feel crap at some time in there life and you are doing it now do your college work or dont its up to you get out and meet people there will be guy nights in your area or try gay and lesbian websites for information on how you feel. talk to your doctor he had heard it all before and will help with this stop gambling and drinking it only leads to problems and it sounds like you are going down this path you need a life not and existence ok

Answer 7

ok firstly you are not to young to be depressed,

Firstly you need to recognise the signs of depression, you need to speak to your GP and sooner before later. It will help you to talk about things and a course of anti deps WILL help. I suffered depresion for 10 long years, like you no motivation wasted my life, I went to gp and got meds now I am recovered and doing well in life, got a senior job and lovely partner, and I am GAY as well, or at least lesbian so e mail me if you weanna chat hunny you will get better trust me

good luck

Answer 8

if you really need a lot of help...this isn't the place to be looking. yes, we all can help a bit but none of us are that great.
go speak to some trained professionalist now if you feel you need to.
i'm a very demotivated person too. find a new hobby you enjoy and see what you can do.
good luck xx

Answer 9

You should tell your Doctor everything

You may need counselling

Take steps to try and stop drinking. it is destroying one of my friends relationships

It seems to me that you have a poor moral and have lost your motivation.

Unfortunately i can't help you get it back that's why you should probably get counselling

Good luck

(Stone you are a terrible person, i am happy that i will never meet you)

Answer 10

Go to your G.P and tell him everything, I am sure he will be able to help. Don't leave it too long as it will get harder to explain. I wish you all the luck in the world. Merry Christmas Sweetie.xx

Answer 11

Please go to church to learn God's way of living a satisfying life.

In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Digestion of above can even prevent depression and suicidal thoughts.)