There was a guy at work that attempted suicide. He was already down and depressed about his job. In addition, he had a couple of deaths in his family. I tried getting him to seek counseling, but he never went to see anyone. Right now, he is in the hospital under suicide watch and when he was found he kept saying he just want to die. I went to go see him, but he doesn't want to see anyone. Is there anything else I can do for him?
2006-12-09 07:33:10 · 12 answers · asked by kindred0269 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
No, you have been a great friend. Remain there for him should he need someone, but allow the doctors to do what they need to do to help him. The good news is that he will be okay. The doctors will get him the help he needs and his life will go on to be productive and fullfilling. Depression is a serious thing and I get a ton of emails through my website http://www.attackanxiety.com about this topic. Here's some good info to know.
What is depression?
Depression is a mood disorder that causes you to feel sad or hopeless for an extended period of time. More than just a bout of "the blues" or temporary feelings of grief or low energy, depression can have a significant impact on your enjoyment of life, your work, your health, and the people you care about.
Depression affects people differently. Some feel down for extended periods of time; for others the feelings of depression come and go. If you have short episodes of mild depression, you may be able to continue to work and take care of daily activities. However, if you do not seek some form of treatment for your depression, you are at risk for getting more depressed or becoming physically ill. In severe cases, depression can cause people to become incapable of communicating, unable to do routine activities, or suicidal. In these cases, it is essential to seek medical attention.
People with depression may be reluctant to seek help because they feel that it is a sign of personal weakness or a character flaw or that they should be able to "pull out of it" on their own. We now know that depression, like other medical conditions, has a chemical and biological basis. Treatment for depression is safe and usually effective even for severely depressed people.
I hope this helps you to understand what he is going through. More people should have friends as good as you. You actually care.
2006-12-09 12:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he is oviously overwhelmed with everything that is going on in his life. death of loved ones are hard to deal with. stress in jobsis hard to. dont ever tell him his issues are not worth worrying over cause they are real to him. they have brought him to the point of suicide. Just let him know u are there for him if he needs any thing. u are a shoulder to cry on and a friend. there is only so much u can do. u cant force him to take ur help or anyone elses. he needs to take the big step and seek help and want it. u can be a friend though if he is wanting it. many people are just needing attention and this is his way of getting it. dont run ur life with his issuses. if some day he does find away to die just know u did what u could by being a friend but ultimatly he made that choice. If he dont grab ur hand when u are reaching out then that is his choice and u have no fault in that. being in the hospital is good. they will get him the care he needs. just pray he is willing to take it. good luck and God Bless
2006-12-09 15:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by goober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is in a very deep state of depression. He's going to have to seek some treatment and untill then, he'll just dismiss any kind of interaction with others. Your best bet, is to just let him know that he has a support group that will be there when he needs them. Stress his value to others and help him seek new employment. I've had a job in the past that was very stressful, time consuming, and it felt like I was at work 24/7 and it just bogged me down. My friends and family all noticed a difference in me, for the worse.
Good luck, hopefully this 2 cents will count.
2006-12-09 15:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by jmeoh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy has lost hope. He needs something that will make him happy/ give him that hope. Chances are he wasn't very motivated anymore- probably why he lost interest in his job...seeking counseling is the best way to pull what makes him happy out of him. Also, depending on how far into the depression he is, special medicines can be prescribed.
Good Luck.
2006-12-09 15:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience people who are suicidal feel unloved and unimportant.like they are just taking up empty space in a dark world...I can be in a room with 1 million and still all alone. Do you know what helps most..for someone to REALLY be there for me..not say I am thinking of you and then I don't hear from them again until I am better but someone who every day lets me know they are there and they care...he may not want to C you know but I can guarantee you he is happy you think enough of him to come and see him...just because you took the effort. Nobody even calls when I am suicidal..you go visit..that takes extra effort..When he starts to feel better, I am sure he will want to see you..This may take a few days..until then, just continue to go by and send cards and call...deep down he appreciates it..Believe me
2006-12-09 15:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by chilover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you want to help this guy but realistically you are not going to be the one to do it. Your support will be needed when he gets back on his feet, you should let him know he is still a normal person, and don't make him feel weird about the whole ordeal...he will be very ashamed and if you want to help, treat him like a normal guy...not like someone who temporarily needs a pat on the back. Depressed people feel can see through any false intentions...so unless you are his true friend, be empathetic, but do not get too involved.
2006-12-09 15:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Digestion of above can even prevent depression and suicidal thoughts.)
2006-12-09 22:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by tmthyh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that you're there for him. If he doesn't already, maybe help him find a girlfriend or boyfriend, whatever he's into. Try to help him make more friends, take him somewhere to take his mind off of suicide.
2006-12-09 16:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by ☆Tąrą☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless you for caring. Your friend needs to know that he has a purpose for existing, that life is never meaningless, and that he has kind friends like you who have compassion for him.
I suggest you bring a battery-operated CD or tape player and play soothing, PRAISE & WORSHIP songs. A man who fears the Lord, who loves him and gave His ONLY Son for Him, will stop thinking that way. Once we realize we were bought back from death at such a price, we will have His love for every human life.
Call CCF. They have Volunteers whose ministry is to visit and encourage "lost ones" like your friend.
2006-12-09 15:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by anieska 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest to keep him in a safe place where he couldn't kill himself. The hospital is a good place. He NEEDS counseling. He obviously has a problem, is he an alcoholic?
2006-12-09 15:37:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋