My fiance' & I are going to my Sister's & Bro in law for the holidays. They are very fussy. We are staying over nite {2}. What would be expected as a guest. We only come this time of yr. Are we expected to make dinner, breakfast etc ... Is my Bro in law allowed private time alone w/guest in his home? Are we suppose to be served food/drinks or do we get our own ?? If a parent gets on my Bro in law nerves, can he make little comments ? Give other ettiquette tips.
HUGE Thx
2006-12-09 07:30:54 · 6 answers · asked by mslapurrr 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't believe you would be expected to make dinner or breakfast, but taking them out to dinner (nice place) would be a good idea. Think about what you would expect if it were your sister and brother-in-law visiting you. If you and your sister are close, and you wouldn't mind them serving themselves, I'm sure your sister wouldn't mind you doing the same (maybe ask first or serve yourself only if they suggest it). Treat them how you would like them to treat you in your own home.
Mostly just be respectful. It can be stressful to have company and to be company.
2006-12-09 07:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try your best to be a guest, above and beyond being a sibling.
We all love guests that leave behind the fragrance of lightness and happiness, not trouble and strife.
Leave everything clean behind you as you go, be helpful, stay aware of when they need alone time. Add to their joy --- don't take away from it.
You're not SUPPOSED to be served anything. But also don't take liberties --- for example, politely ask for water and listen to the cues you're given about the next time you want water.
Be gracious, giving, understanding. Be the best human being you can be --- and allow them to be fussy if that's how they choose to be. It's their home. It's not a permanent arrangement, so I'm sure you can bite your tongue.
Being a guest is definitely an art-form, requiring humility and gratefulness --- you take whatsoever is given and you put in your very best, courteous, proper behavior. And the way you know you've succeeded? You're invited back!!!
2006-12-09 08:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by starlight 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should bring a gift when you come and present it when you walk through the door.-ex: a bottle of wine, bouquet flowers, fine chocolate, gift basket, gourmet food items.
Watch for your sister's cues as far as whether she wants to serve you guys or whether she wants you to help set the table.
You can also ask her if she needs any help in the kitchen. If she does she will tell you what she wants your to whether it be setting the table, chopping up vegetables, etc
Make up the bed and keep the room tidy. Don't get your groove on w/ your fiance in your sister's house!
2006-12-09 07:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by the librarian 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Preferably, bring them gifts.
If they treat you to dinner, reciprocate the next night. Keep the place clean, help out whenever possible, and sleep around the same time as they do. Don't make too much noise and don't complain about anything. Wash their guest bathroom before you leave. Strip their beddings for laundering before leaving.
2006-12-10 02:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the beauty of America - when brother or sister are fussy and or impossible you don't have to forge personal relations with them. If you don't click with them, then why bother going? Send them a Christmas card each year and a phone call..
2006-12-09 07:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat them to dinner at least once; Do help out if needed; AND DON'T TRASH THEIR PLACE!!
2006-12-09 07:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋