By the way Im 30, pregnant (shock horror!) and never really dated for longer than a few months. Im loaded so money is not an issue, men tend to want it of me! The dad will be around and stay down the road. Is that morally ok? I think it is, a least Im not putting this child through a nasty divorce and the child will have a private education and so on. So Im not on state benefits. I will not be taking up with another man Im just going to look lovely and enjoy my baby, my life and my future. I have no need for a man and never really did (except the getting the baby before my biological clock ended) Is that naughty?
2006-12-09 07:27:10 · 19 answers · asked by oceanwaves 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with living single. I'm 53 and am single and am enjoying it. Yes I was married for almost 20 years but was single prior to marriage and have no intentions of ever marrying again. It was more of a marriage of convienence than any thing. I have no need for marriage I enjoy my singlehood. I don't get lonely, got lonely quite often during my marriage, spent 17 years of my marriage being lonely. Having a child "out of wedlock" at your age isn't anything major. You are probably more emotionally stable and financially stable as well than a girl in her teens or early twenties. I was 27 when I got married and 32 when I had my daughter. I would be willing to bet that you are a more "relaxed" parent and probably have people calling you lazy as you allow (or will allow) your child to get to know the world on their own terms. Nope it's not naughty. Just not done quite often but marriage isn't the cure all for everyone.
2006-12-09 07:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 25. if you would have asked this question 10 years ago, i would have replied, what is wrong with you. now....it's not so black and white. i am also single. and there are times in my life that i love it. i love having no one to answer to and can go where i want and can come home with whoever i want. but then there are times in my life where i do want something more. coming home to my empty apt gets old sometimes, especially when i have really good news or just had a bad day. i want kids, and i have decided that if i dont have anything promising by the time i am 30, i will probably do the same thing you have done. there is nothing wrong with being able to give your child the best life possible on your own. if you can care for your baby and support him/her, then i give you mad props. the fact that the dad is still going to be around, thats even better. you are giving your child the opportunity to know who he is. i wish you the best of luck, and i think you are doing a good thing. and dont worry about what other people think. if you stand firm in what you are doing, then you will do just fine
2006-12-09 07:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by va_gal22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't care for the guy why did you even bother telling him that you are pregnant with his child? And if you are so happy about being single and it seems to be the right thing for you then why are you asking is there something wrong with it. If you were really alright with it you wouldn't feel the need to ask if it is okay.
Is it fair for the baby? That's the question.
And as for the is that morally ok, question. Depends on your morals now don't it.
2006-12-09 07:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be a problem? Marriage and relationships aren't for everyone. If you are happy with how you're life is then you should cherish it because not many people get the chance to be happy.
And don't worry about what others may think. This is your life so live it the way you want to.
2006-12-09 07:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by DrkWarlock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you. You don't need a man to make you complete. I think a Dad makes it easier and sometimes its hard...(no personal experience, just a lot of single mother friends and I was raised by a single parent) but If you think this is the right choice...
Then I 100% back up your choice!!
Congratulations on the baby!
2006-12-09 07:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by OldSchoolLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you have a volume of time b4 you acquire married to play the sphere for awhile? If not, you are going to be able to choose some time for your self... I also have a pal who have been given divorced and bar hopped for awhile with a recently divorced chum of hers...purely be careful and of course, use protection and restraint--there are some creeps accessible. She at last met the guy she's married to now, that's a much greater helpful marriage than the 1st. purely be honest on your relationships-if relationship greater suitable than one guy or woman-enable them to appreciate, honesty is what we choose from others.
2016-10-18 00:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's perfectly OK. You can make it on your own. It's harder for women who have no idea how to sustain themselves, but you've got that covered. Is there anything better than singlehood, really? You and your baby are the important ones now, and it's best to keep men out of the equation completely.
2006-12-09 07:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consider the benefit of the child having a male roll model while growing up.But your not really doing anything wrong.
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2016-05-18 05:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just enjoy your time with ur baby and if ur fine w/o dating then stay that way.
2006-12-09 07:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by ozzygirlisme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋