I'm a senior in HS and have this major crush on this girl who is a junior in HS. So much so that I want to marry her (seriously, she has every quality that you would look for). I wanna marry her but she doesn't even know that I like her. She's not into the dating thing. I don't think she even knows me but its not because she's arrogent, actaully far far from it. But the more I see her in school the more I see that she is well, too good. Everything I do, she does better than me. In academics, sports, religion and everything in between. And the one thing I thought she could not do, she passed me on that too. The more I think about it she's too good for a person like me. She comes from a very affluent family but she is the most down-to-earth person you will ever come across. She has one of those magnetic personalities and a smile that lights up a room. So what do I have to offer in this? Is she really out of my reach?
2006-12-09 07:01:54 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's only out of your reach if you keep thinking like that.
Just start being friends with her. The best relationships come from being friends first - and really getting to know someone.
Good luck!
2006-12-09 07:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to make a first step here, even if it's a baby step. Slip a note in her locker, ask her to a lunch date or coffee on the weekend.
As for her being out of your reach - don't ever think someone is "too good for you". Money and high academics do NOT make a person or dictate what/who a person will like.
Only you can answer what you have to offer her, love, loyalty, respect, friendship...all of those are worth more than any bank account....if those things are important to her.
You won't know unless you try - don't look back on your life in 5 years and regret that you never took the chance. That's worse, imo, than hearing the word "no".
2006-12-09 15:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by skyblueme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say anything about yourself. However, you do mention her a lot and how she does a lot of things better then you. So, if you think she is perfect then you must be near perfection as well. Remember, when you have such strong feelings as you say, it sounds like you really love her from a far. So get to know her one on one, talk to her about all the things you said here. You sound as though you have a lot in common. I am sure that your strong feelings for her, make her appear to you as perfect and that's okay. But I am so sure you will have a lot to offer her. The fact that her smiles lights up your heart, the fact that she is everything to you and more, the fact that you can see all her beauty inside and out should give you confidence in yourself to approach her. Maybe no one else has seen her in such a way. Do not let this pass you by. Like I said, talk to her, ask her to lunch so you can talk or ask her to a movie and once you have established an on going conversation, let her know exactly how you see her.
Because from what I read, you see a lot of her in you.
Good Luck
2006-12-09 15:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by megabites42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a person that is out of your reach. You set that up in your own head and then it will keep you from acting confident enough to attract her. It's called self-fulfilling prophecy. I don't think you love her so much that you want to marry her though. It sounds like you barely even know the girl. You are just infatuated and in love with this perfect image of a person you created in your head. She might be pretty and good at all sorts of things, but if you had real world experience, then you would know that even when you get to know a person you aren't going to be so sure that you want to marry her. Get those crazy thoughts out of your head. They will probably make you act like a weirdo and kill any chances you have with her. If you like her, just go and talk to her and enjoy spending time with her and getting to know her. Crazy asses like you get heartbroken over girls that they never had. Stop it and come back to reality man, you'll have more fun.
2006-12-09 15:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be friends with her, get to know her, and after a while ask out on a date to the movies or something simple like that. Always remember in a realtionship that you should always take things slow because if you rush things in a relationship things will turn upside down. I would say go for it.
2006-12-09 15:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by nonestopchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything that you listed was what can be seen from the outside. You don't know if there's anything on the inside that you could be there for her. And she may be perfect right now, but later down the road she could need help. But, you may never know if she could need this possible help if you don't talk to her and tell her how you feel. You never know she may feel the same about you. Take the chance, you could be the one she is looking for.
2006-12-09 15:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by kek_319 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your young and dont know any better. Not to mention you sound like a stalker. What are you like 18? People change a whole lot between 18-25 so I would forget about marrage. Not to mention the girl doesnt even know/like you. Take small steps and get to know each other first.
2006-12-09 15:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by Average Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you need to get to know her. You say she doesn't know you well you don't know her neither. You might find that you really don't like her as much as you thought you did.
Never is anyone to good for you. If yall click then thats all good if not atleast you tried. But you have to try. Surely you have gone out with girls well thats all she is a girl go up to her and ask her out or just start conversation with her. Man you have to let her know your alive or call it quits. Step up to the batters plate, hit the homerun.
Let us know what happens.
Good luck to you
2006-12-09 15:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think she doesn't know you exist make yourself exist. Walk up and say hi. If she isn't into dating then just get to know her. Hang out at school or something. Then invite her to something she would be interested in and if she dances around it tell her you want to go because you thought she would like it and thats all. Let it build. If you have the feelings you say about her then you can work up to this.
2006-12-09 15:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by Erin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you must be a good person to have said the things you just said. Never say she is to good for you. I think you should just walk up to her and say just what you have said here. Most normal girls love to hear these things.You certainly have a way with words. So put your gift to work.
2006-12-09 15:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋