Im alone and feel depressed?

Question

I am free now after my tough bachelors and now I feel depressed almost everyday. Mostly bcoz of my family and how we have learned to live and make others live in depression. Its almost like a curse. My family and society doent consider that there are things like anxiety and depression in young adults im 23 and I cant live alone coz my culture is such. Plz dont tell me to move out I really cant not til August 2007 and maybe not even then.

In my country mental health problems = Mental Hospital . Period. There are almost no phsyciatrists and even if there are I cant visit them. No way.
I have a phobia of people and its so strong that I prefer being closed up in a room rather than go meet friends. If I do I always say something wrong come home and cry..for weeks sometimes.Dont tell me I shouldnt have it coz thats what I get for asking my parents and I have NO SINCERE freind I can talk to. When I tell my mom about my problems...if she is in a bad mood ever later, she calls me abnormal.

Answer 1

I'm so sorry that your culture doesn't really allow you to get help. Since I can't really understand that I would suggest calling a national suicide hotline. You can find one by doing a search engine check. Also I have seen websites that offer support on their site, maybe check those out too? The people at a suicide hotline may be able to put you in touch with someone that you can talk to on the phone for help and/or through a program that your family won't learn about. Are you in the U.S.? If you are it will be easier to keep such things from your family. I wish you well.

Answer 2

Do not consider yourself helpless because of your country or culture. Your the way you think makes you feel the way you do. Get a new hobby or keep yourself busy. If you join a hobby class, wou cuold make some new friends there. Do you work? If not, getting a job would force u to interact with colleagues and that will help you overcome your phobia or insecurities while interracting with others, as well as make you financially more secure thus making you more confident. It is not possible that there are no psychiatriasts anywhere in your country. Yet, if you cannot find one, a local doctor can prescribe antidepressants that are really helpful. There is no need to go to a 'mental hospital' and definitely no need to tell anyone that you're seeing a doctor regarding this problem of yours. You are entitled to a right to privacy and confidence so the doctor you see won't tell anyone else unless you tell him/her to involve your family etc. - This law applies in most countries - even in India where such a culture exists. What you basically need to do is get out of your shell, boost your self confidence - do something you like and are good at...If you don't know yet, it's high time you tried things and discovered yourself. Once your confidence levels are high, you'll not fear interacting. If you are an introvert, you can bury yourself in books or entertaining movies etc. However, you could make a few friends and go out too. It will take time for you to trust someone and become best friends but if you don't mingle that wont happen. It all starts with an aquaintaince.... So best of luck

Answer 3

I'm so sorry you are struggling with things right now. That's no fun. I suffer from depression too, and I've had to go to the hospital for it more than once. I'm not crazy though, and there's no reason that someone having to go to a hospital should make them feel crazy. Depression and phobia of people can go hand in hand. When I get really depressed, I don't want to be around anyone. Or you might have a disorder that is making you have this phobia of people. Either way, you are not crazy, and your family needs to try to understand the nature of Depression and mental health issues. They are like any other health problem. It does not make you abnormal. In fact, it's really quite normal!

Try to get them some literature they can read about depression. And don't be afraid of going to a hospital, if that's what you need to do to get better. I received help there. My doctors were able to do a complete study of my bloodwork and everything. We discussed what I was eating, what kind of thoughts I was thinking (and I learned I had a lot of negative thoughts I didn't need to have) and what kind of concerns I had, and ways to cope. I learned meditation techniques and other things I could do that would help with stress. And just the fact that there were others there who were going through the same thing made me realize I was not alone in this. So don't be afraid of a hospital experience. It's not an awful thing, and no one has to know you went unless you tell them.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry for the pain you are going through! It is unfortunate that you're not in a country that understands that many cases of depression must be treated with medicine. The best thing you can do on your own is eat healthy foods, take vitamines (especially vitamin B), and exercise (even if it's just taking a walk thirty minutes a day). You may also find comfort in reading the secrets posted every Sunday on http://www.postsecrets.com A lot of people with depression find comfort at that site (you'll realize you're not alone). Hugs to you.

Answer 5

Recent research indicates that there are four effective means to improve your mood when you are feeling some degree of depression: exercise, learning, enrichment, and medication. Consider the four areas as listed below and list what you do now as well as activities that you can add.
EXERCISE
Examples: walking, swimming, jogging, aerobics, yoga, tai chi, karate, weight training
LEARNING
Examples: counseling, classes, reading about new topics, attending focus groups, memorization, study for new careers, going to new places, developing a new hobby
ENRICHMENT
Examples: listening to enjoyable music, visiting museums, walking in nature, visiting the zoo, redecorating or individualizing your work or home environment, movies, arts, reading humorous material, joining groups of similar interests
MEDICATION
Example: a primary care physician frequently can work with you to see if a medication aids in improving your mood.

Answer 6

My heart goes out to you. Depression is often a chemical issue, easily corrected, but if there are no doctors to help you, I don't know how you can get the help you need. If people tell you that you "shouldn't" have these problems, they just don't know a d@mn thing about pyschology. All I can offer you is the assurance that you're not alone, and that sometimes things get better. Just take life one day at a time.

Answer 7

wow ur realli alone i think i kno what ur tlking about with this whole culture crisis thing! what struk out to me is u have no friend to tlk to...if u want to tlk to someone that wont judge u and wants to help unconditionally try emailing [e-mail]
dont keep this problem to ur self humans are social animals and NEED to tlk...u'll drive urself crazy if u dont get help...looks likeu need a friend...dont wry u wont be writing to a perv or something. hope is a girl and she can relate to u

Answer 8

You can chat with people on line, and for that u don't have to leave Ur room.And u can watch movies and read a good book.If i were u i rather b alone than with people who dont care about u.hey and is that henna as mehndi?

Answer 9

check your symptoms at www.webmd.com and see if you find helpful information there. Look up Agoraphobia and see if that's what you're dealing with. The site might give you some links to some on-line help. Good luck!

Answer 10

Read the Quran, it is the word of the Lord, the one who is created u and this entire universe, ask for his help, he has the cure to all problems, he is ur true source of guidance and all u need is to have trust in him, ur life here and here-after would turn beautiful, inshALLAH.