There is a guy in my building who works in the office down from mine. We aren't co-workers I just see him on the elevator occasionally and we talk. He parks 3 cars down from me and it took me a year to notice him. Now I really kinda like him. He misplaced his winter coat this year and he is determined to find it that is why he hasn't bought a new one. I thought it would be really thoughtgul and cute to buy him a hat, gloves and scarf set for Christmas and attach a note. The note would say "Since it took me a year to notice you. My early new years resolution is to be less self-absorbed. This is my first selfless gesture and aren't you glad I chose you?" Just to be funny at least. My problem is his office set up like Fort Knox. I have to ring a bell to get someone to come to the counter and I don't want to involve the entire office in this. That and I am not sure if I have the guts to just hand it to him. What do I do?
2006-12-09 06:46:08 · 11 answers · asked by Erin B 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
give it to him in the parking lot, since you said you guys park close to eachother.
2006-12-09 06:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just makes you sound horrible and pretentious... Not cute or desirable at all! Waaaay too much confession going on there!
You don't make those kinds of confessions on or before the first date. That kind of thing, is for your first anniversary confession which it is painfully obvious how you already believe there will be one BUT are pushing him away before you ever even get there in your insecurity fear and self loathing...
Don't plan so far ahead that you are willing to ruin something before your even start it!
Sounds like you maneuver yourself through the beginning middle and ending of things before they even start... Live for the moment and just say... "Because I really like you too much to see you freeze and wanted you to be warm and comfortable since you lost your coat."
It shows you're sympathetic, funny, understanding, and how you remember the little details of your conversations concerning what is important to him.
2006-12-09 06:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not gotten to know him very well, it's probably not a good idea to get him a gift. He may feel that he has to reciprocate, and he might not have the funds/desire to give YOU a gift, but he'll feel obligated.
Why don't you just jokingly offer to help him look for his coat, or say, "Since now I'm out of my self-absorbed phase, why don't I ___" and then offer to do something nice. If you phrase it that way, he won't necessarily have to take your offer, but he can if he feels comfortable with it.
Maybe once you get to know him better you can give him a present.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-09 08:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could mail it to him. Or you could ring the bell, leave it there, with a card that just says his name on the envelope. If you hand it too him, you don't need to be nervous because he's going to know that it's you anyway right? But that's a really cute idea! Good luck!
2006-12-09 06:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by p_snickerdoodle@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wrap it up in a present and put it on his car! Maybe try to notice at what time he leaves the appartment usually or when he leaves work so you can put it on the car and he'll get it right away. I hope everything works out for the best!
2006-12-09 06:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lady C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might wrap it in plain paper, and leave it with his receptionist, along with your note concealed as a Christmas card. Your anonymity will be secure, and you'll have a good feeling next time you see him, wearing the gifts you "gave" him. Hey, it could work!
2006-12-09 06:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by boots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send it by messenger with your name and number attached.
2006-12-09 06:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find Ur guts and give it to him.
its always nice to receive a gift in person.
2006-12-09 06:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not do it. Just introduce yourself next time you see him.
2006-12-09 06:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by pepsiolic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it on his car or in the lift- unless they're likely to get stolen or something. acctually my suggestion is rubbish, please ignore me......
good luck! xXx
2006-12-09 06:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by roooof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋