i met this guy at work that keeps on asking me out.
i told him that i have a bf , but he insists on taking me out for dinner as friends. i can see that he wants to be more than friends, but he keeps on repeating " can we be friends, and if we can why cant we just hang out"
so i decided to say yes, tomorrow i am going out with him for dinner. do u think i should tell my bf about this?
and should i go anyway?
i am kinda lost.
2006-12-09 06:39:12 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reverse the situation and put your boyfriend in your shoes.
Would you be angry if he didn't tell you that he was going out to dinner with a girl from work?
The answer is yes...you should tell him. I personally think it is very innapropriate to "hang out" just you and him, since you have a boyfriend. If you were to hang out with him at a work party it would be different because there are other ppl there, but with just you and him, it gives him the wrong idea, and puts you both in a compromising situation.
If you truly do insist on going out with this other guy (who is not your boyfriend)...you need to tell him.
2006-12-09 06:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out with him. He would not take you out if he didn't think there was a chance you both could end up being more than friends. Also, how would you feel if your bf took a girl from work out for dinner and told you he did, but she just wants to be friends with him. You would know the girl was hoping to take over your job and be his NEW girlfriend. If you are not really into your bf, break off with him before accepting any invitations from males. Tell this guy from work you want to be friends at work but that is as far as it can go, you are totally committed to your bf.
2006-12-09 14:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by Lean on Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see...you are deceiving your BF and leading this other guy on. Why would you want to do this? Telling your BF about it may lessen your guilt over it, but it will cause a rift in your relationship that may never mend. If it was the other way around (your BF going out to dinner with a female co-worker who just wanted to be "friends"), how would you feel? Cancel the dinner date if you're serious about keeping your BF.
2006-12-09 14:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the work guy you want to bring your bf and see if he still wants to hang out. If he wants to be your friend than it shouldn't be a problem. Let your bf know whats going on. I don't think you need to give all the details but let him know about this guy.
You know this guy wants to be more than friends so don't put yourself in a bad position and hang out with him without telling your bf. Being dishonest will ruin your relationship.
2006-12-09 14:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by not*a*placebo*81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your bf as if you dont then he might read too much into it. Then tell him its just dinner and then maybe ask your work colleague if you brought a couple of friends. If he agrees (doubtful) then bring your guy and a single friend who might get along with the work colleague. otherwise go and ask yuor guy to pick you up afterwards as this would avoid having to be alone with your work friend.
2006-12-09 14:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Neil M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your bf about this. He willl probably understand. But if the guy at the gym wants to be more than friends, tell him to BACK OFF, or you will get your boyfriend up in here and kick his you-know-what!
2006-12-09 14:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by mansoureh s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need to tell you're boyfriend and explain this or he will find out himself and be very hurt. Maybe you could double date or something to show this guy that you're serious about you're boyfriend and don't want to give him the wrong impression.
2006-12-09 14:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really feel that are capable of being friends with this guy and he is capable of just being friends with you, then you should be fine in going. you should definitely tell your boyfriend, definitely. however, from the way you describe the situation, it doesn't seem like this guy only wants to be your friend, he clearly wants to woo you.
2006-12-09 14:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Lovely Candi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your boyfriend? Then Yes Tell Him! Call your pushy date and tell him you can't come as your boyfriend is over and you already had plans ..Don't play with fire you are only going to get hurt :)
2006-12-09 14:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by kel s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick u bf with u, so to see if this guy is really thinking abt pure friendship
2006-12-09 14:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by JUSTGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋