well my ex b/f broke up with me by saying "i dont feel like goign out right now but he was drunk. and he apoligized a few days later for doing that.and i want him back but im not sue what to do about.his friend that im friends with said that he would talk to him for me.so should i just wait to see what he tells his friend??like im not sure whta do do??can u help plz.only serious answers plz!thnx
2006-12-09 06:25:36 · 15 answers · asked by roxygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would ask your boyfriend where does your relationship stand. Meaning are we together or not. Sometimes the truth comes out when they have a few drinks. Don't get his friend in the middle of it. Go directly to your b/f
2006-12-09 06:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by jewels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said he wants to be with you it means he cares about you.
However, this does not mean he is totally in love with you and he may have things that he wants to improve if it is possible.
Let the friend talk with him and maybe you'll find out more about these and about the reason he wanted to break up with you then.
You have to communicate more and try to understand eachother better.
And don't forget, when people have a fight, an argument, a dissagreement in a subject, this does not mean they are not right for eachother. Most of the times this can bring them closer to eachother.
It is a good thing to forgive the other person when they done a mistake toward you.
2006-12-09 06:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by iDontKnowWhatToDo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, a drunk broke up with you and now a 3rd party is going to speak for you. Where are you in this? Why are you having some go-between talk to him? Are you 11? Because that is what the middle school kids all do. Grow up if you are having an adult relationship.
2006-12-09 06:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, it's easy! First, note this, if you mean a boyfriend, you might be hanging unto someone who might end up being your man for life. Hence, whatever you do, do not be short sighted! It's easy to be led by affectionate feelings, but trend with care lest you wanna knock down. A friend is OK to talk to him for you, but I would ask you to stick it out and face the devil. It's time he got serious or not!! Be wise in what you are intending to do. Success, girl.
2006-12-09 06:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by kaju 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he wants to talk to you. Don't run relay messages through friends. If you want talk, go to him directly. If he doesn't want to talk, then maybe he's not worth being with. Alcohol is a truth syrum. Alot of people say what they really feel when they've had a few too many. You may want to rethink whether you want to be with him or not.
2006-12-09 06:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First don't rely on friends to do what you should do. Sometimes they are not as reliable as you would think.
Second you need to discuss these issues with him in person not on the phone.
If you see that he is going to have a drinking problem and it is going to effect your realtionship, you need to get out of it now before things get out of hand.
I hope you think seriously about this.
Dont saddle yourself with a problem.
You need one on one conversation with him.
Let him know outright how you feel.
good luck
2006-12-09 06:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when someone has been drinking...they tend to tell the truth...he may really be sorry...BUT may not want to be with you right now...I'd deal with him ONLY when he's NOT drunk...People use THAT excuse TOO much...
I was drunk..didn't know what I was doing...
I was drunk...kissing/having sex with her didn't mean a thing...
I was drunk...you KNOW I'd NEVER hit you EVER!!!!
BLAH BLAH BLAH
2006-12-09 06:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go to his best friend for help, this must be just between the two of you, his reason for breaking up is stupid, so when ever he gets drunk is he gonna break up with you? i tell you what, don't chase him let him come to you.. this will work play hard to get, maybe go out with another guy,,and if he wants you and loves you he will come to you.. but no matter how hard it gets, don't chase him .. be strong, who knows, during this time you may find someone heaven sent...g/l
2006-12-09 06:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by boots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know they say when your drunk you speak a sober mind so he meant what he said i would move on if i were you.
2006-12-09 06:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When me and my boyfriend get drunk we have good sex, when he get drunk I have good sex with him and when I get drunk he has damn good sex with me. Get my point? We dont break up! Take a hint and dont let this guy mentally abuse you. Stand up for yourself!
2006-12-09 06:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by Lil Momma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋