someone who always finds a problem with them selves someone who is afraid to even talk to a guy because she is afraid he might turn her down r use her.
2006-12-09 06:04:40 · 13 answers · asked by shelo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Low self esteem does usually come from someone thinking that they somehow don't measure up in someway, shape or form. Insecurities like this are in all of us from the moment we become aware of ourselves as individuals.
For some of us, it's a struggle to push past these things to the point of ignoring or missing out on the things going on around us. It will be tough to get this "someone" to see that it's worth the effort to take a chance on the people in his or her life.
Help this "someone" meet good people to get that confidence up. Point out what people need to be avoided or treated with caution and above all be positive about any outgoing things he or she does on their own. By encouraging outgoing behavior and teaching them some of the things you've learned in the relationship world, you'll show that good people can be found out there and that some can turn out to be invaluable friends.
2006-12-09 06:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by warp6point6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really help in a big way. You can help in a small way by never tearing them down and reminding them often about the good things about them.
Real help would be a counselor getting to the bottom of this poor self-image and showing them how to defuse the angst.
Fear of guys being jerks is a justified fear taken too far. She needs to understand that people are bastard covered bastards with bastard filling sometimes, but that doesn't mean she's without worth and beauty.
Men can be jerks, women can be jerks. We cannot control that. We CAN control whether or not we allow them to crush our spirits.
2006-12-09 14:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that always afraid of what people might say or think of me. As I got older and experienced more and more heartache from not taking the risks in life....I just told myself one day I am going to live an independant life. The more independant I am the more my self esteem grew because I cared less and less about what people really think of me! I am still looking for mr right (don't get me wrong) but I am more confident in myself because of this change in lifestyle. :)
2006-12-09 14:10:26 · answer #3 · answered by Erin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Constantly reminding them of their good points, is a start. She may have other reasons for not trusting guys, not just her own low self-esteem. There are alot of books out there that could help - "He's just not that into you" is one, and Dr. Phil has a great book on being the "best you" . Maybe if she hears/reads it enough, it will help.
2006-12-09 14:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone with a low self esteem often have trouble in there homes. she should talk to someone. if she doesnt wanna do that then she needs to look in the mirror naked everyday and tell herself that shes beautiful no matter what people think. when people see the confidence in her they wont use her , she also needs to stand up for herself!! be confident.
2006-12-09 14:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by jrs wife! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be thousands of answers to this question. First, for foremost, if this was my friend, I would compliment them on something regularly (and do not be a phoney about it). If this person is your friend, go shopping with them to buy nice cloths, help them get dressed up, take them to a party with you and indroduce them one of your nice friends. Help your friend built self-esteem. Not only with this help your friend, it will benefit you also knowing you have helped someone!
2006-12-09 14:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by Hammer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help her with her self-esteem.
You can tell her it makes you feel bad that she puts herself down and maybe she could use a few session with a therapist to find out where this is coming from.
2006-12-09 14:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly there isn't much you can do for a person like that until they recognize for themselves all the positive qualities they posses. all i can recommend is being a loving and caring friend during that time. encourage her to go out and meet people, give her honest compliments, let her know that she is special. tell her it's okay to date a loser for time to time because it makes it all the more easier to recognize prince charming when he comes along. if you are a good friend i hope you have a lot of patience cause you are going to need it. trust me.
2006-12-09 14:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it took my ex-wife 6 years of telling me how good-looking I was to ever get me to the point of not feeling repulsive. Ofcourse now I know she was full ot it but at least I felt better back then...
I'd have to say repitition is the key here.
After all, it took my dad 23 yrs of telling me how worthless I was before the wife got ahold of me.
2006-12-09 14:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find her a friend with lower self esteem to hang out with and it should cure her.
2006-12-09 14:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by Lil Momma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋