He usaully acts up with me when I try to displine him.
2006-12-09 05:47:42 · 14 answers · asked by florquintanilla@sbcglobal.net 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
No child will behave all the time, however respect and authority should be established for later in life. Trying to be a childs friend and not their parent will be costly down the road. As for suggestions on how to discipline a child, there is no one clear answer. Every child is different. Use your best judgment as a parent. One key point though explain bad behavior to a child. Let them know exactly what they are doing wrong that is bringing on the punishment (whatever it maybe). Also make sure the punishment fits the crime. And finally for store trips try going way before or after the child has had a nap, also again explaining before you go into the store how you expect your child to act and what will not be tolerated.
2006-12-09 06:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THis really is the million dollar question lol! YOU may have to make sure your follow thru is on track. don't throw out any punishments that are impossible to keep. Come up with simple things that work. I have a five yr old and right now what works with her is grounding from the computer or playstation. Plus she has a big foundness for doughnuts(shes alot skinnier than it sounds!) so if theres misbehavior no doughnuts for five days. Its real hard and frustrating, especially when its in public and people are looking downthier noses at you cause you cant control your child, rest assured, they have been there too at some point we all have!
And nothing is going to work all the time I have to change tactics with mine all the time.
2006-12-09 06:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by curious student 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get him to behave at all times, you'll have to wait about 30 years! Remember, he only grows and learns when he tests the boundaries and finds out what happens when he crosses the line. His job is to test, your job is to let him go as far as he can but within the boundaries of society and family, safety, health, and whatever your boundaries are.
But, if your discipline is firm, consistent, and lovingly administered, you will see changes. Don't ask him (or tell him) to do something (sit still on a chair, put his toys away, etc) unless you really are willing to patiently make him do it. If you tell him it's time to put his toys away and he ignores you, you have to be patient enough to make him do it....or provide the consequences when he doesn't. If you waffle, you're lost...and he's completely confused. Children NEED boundaries...it makes them feel safe. How would you feel if you showed up at work at 8:05 one time and it was fine, but the next time you were reprimanded, and the third time you were told you were supposed to be in at 7:45? Confusing huh? Same for him. All through life, actions have consequences and it's a lesson you can lovingly and gently start teaching from birth....I cry, warm arms pick me up and make me feel safe. Later, I write on the wall and I have to clean it myself...now I know I can't write on the wall.
Finally, as a Grandma, I would counsel to remember that he really is still a baby and will make plenty of mistakes. His discipline should match up with his age. At 3, he's gonna spill milk....it's an accident and he has to learn to control his movements. But can he scream in public place? No...he's old enough to be told that it disturbs others and isn't acceptable behaviour. If you never let him develop bad habits as a baby, you won't be trying to figure out how to break them when he's older. If he acts defiant now and you let him because it's easier than the discipline, it will be unmanageable when he's 5 or 6...now's the time for him to learn what is and isn't acceptable.
Best of luck to you. Be loving, consistent, and know what you want....then tell him what is expected and follow through. It will get easier if you just stay consistent and remember your job is to be a Parent not a friend. He'll trust you when he knows what to expect from you.
Just my 2 cents.....
Best of luck to you.
2006-12-09 06:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by Peek-a-Boo B Nursing Covers.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About the only thing that would work would be heavy sedatives. Three year olds push the boundaries constantly. That's part of what defines them. It is perfectly normal. Just keep a firm rein and set the boundaries. He'll learn.
2006-12-09 05:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is pretty much impossible he is a little kid with a short attention span and being at there best behavior all the time is not possible for them. Just be patient and when necessary you can put him on time outs but not for every little thing just remember that he is still young and learning
2006-12-09 07:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jaime T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that. My 4 year old still acts up
2006-12-09 06:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by vcheney84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Just try to remind him he's getting older and needs to behave or won't go to the store with you. It's takes time, after all he's only 3. Good luck.
2006-12-09 05:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by us5we2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ha Ha Like hearding cats.
I have hear that sitting in a three year old (gentily) so that he can't move will calm him down.
Spare the rod and you'll spoil the child
2006-12-09 05:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be super mean but be very firm. Foll through with you punishments. Only spank for repeated offenses. Like if he is sassy send him to the corner or "time out " but if he is repeatedly sassy then use your hand and give him a small spanking.
2006-12-13 04:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son who turned 3 last week earns and loses privileges when he's bad.
Currently telling him he'll lose his movie privileges keeps him from acting up too bad(he loves Cars).
I also give him extra privileges when he's good i.e. a new toy, an extra story, just to name a few
This works great for us
2006-12-09 10:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by njyecats 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋