How do you gain a close female friend's trust???Why wouldn't she trust you???
I don't treat friends badly, mess girls around, etc
She's told me that she can only open up to me about certain issues and she does feel comfortable around me...
What could have happened in her past to find trusting people difficult?
Is this why she doesn't want to become more than friends???(we are attracted to each other,everything else is there)
Advice
Any similar experiences....
2006-12-09 05:36:36 · 11 answers · asked by roadtripman90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've told her she deserves to be treated like royalty-she always disagrees-said she don't deserve my feelings...
2006-12-09 05:46:39 · update #1
This is kind of a tough situation, b/c my sister is the same way, it's really hard for her to like really really trust her bf now! I would just say talk to her about some personal issue, stuff that won't make her really upset though, always check and see how she is doing, tell her you're always there for her if anything is wrong, you know the stuff that shows you really care. Try to find out about her without really letting her tell you everything. Good luck :)
2006-12-09 05:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not interested in you.
Make yourself content and happy with your life and stop trying to make HER come around.
The only way to gain someone's - anyone's - trust is by being trustworthy. You may be giving off signals that tell her she can't trust you.
I'd raise an eyebrow to anyone who wants me to just trust them without giving me a reason to give them that honour.
She wants to be your friend and that is what you must accept. Give her space and maybe in future things may change but pushing the issue will only drive any human away.
2006-12-09 06:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my own experience: she was probably treated badly by some guy in the past and she is still hurt. try talking to her, make her feel safe around you, offer her comfort, support, love...
be gentle, don't make any sudden moves on her or you'll just scare her off. show her that she still deserves to be loved, and treated good by a nice guy... i hope this will help. good luck!
2006-12-09 05:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by Nina Maria S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many things could have happened u just never know . For me i know is hard for me to trust people because i usually end up getting lied to and finding it out . The only thing u can do is don't stop being her friend and maybe one day she'll open up to u . You just have to be patient with her .
2006-12-09 05:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by gamegirl11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes probably been hurt by a guy in the past, the best way to help her through it and begin to trust you is to talk to her about what happend. Be supportive, she'll soon realise youre not like the guy who hurt her. you might just have to take things slowly with her, she just needs time and reassurance. its hard to learn to trust a guy again when one you loved hurt you bady.
email me if you need more specific advice.
2006-12-09 05:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has probably been hurt or let down badly by a fella before, which has knocked her confidence. She is worried that this may happen again and does not want the hurt. Prove to her that she can trust you by sticking to your word.
2006-12-09 06:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by pandora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every woman keep secrets to themselves until she feel that it is the time for the secret to be release. Its not that she don't trust you its just maybe even though she feels comfortable she is not ready to share ever thing yet. The best advice i can give you is to just sit tight and relax, if you really care for her.Eventually she will feel your patients and tell you those things.
2006-12-09 05:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude im in the same situation
ive been in this situation for a whole year
you just have to be there for her
keep remining her that
but im telling you this now from experience some girls can be like that and when she said she dont trust you shes made up her mind
2006-12-09 05:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its difficult to go from trusting someone as a friend to trusting someone as a boyfreind as they are such different things
2006-12-09 05:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lucy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come to me, u can trust me and i can trust ur bank accounts
2006-12-09 05:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by BeautyBreak H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋