i have many of them,stemming from my most recent relationship.i am tired of being the only one that believes this is a problem.it has made me begin to despise him,i want to make him feel the way i do.unimportant,unloved,undeserving of happiness,etc...
2006-12-09 05:31:47 · 12 answers · asked by unattainable 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I resolve them, one way or another, and get them out of my life
2006-12-09 05:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way I get over unresolved issues is to accept that there is no solution to the problem and that's just the way its going to be. I don't necessary like it, but it helps me to move forward some days!! Try and channel the negative energy into something positive for you. Don't waste anymore of your time with the anger. One day you will wonder why you even bothered with this guy! After you have accepted that no one can control anothers emotions. We may influence them, but no one can MAKE someone feel anything unless they choose to allow it to happen. Take care and my best to you. It will get better!!
2006-12-09 05:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by somebodys_watchn_you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your talking about revenge. That won't help you. In the long run, it will only hurt you. Everyone goes through life looking for the 'perfect' person. It can take a lot of failures before you get to success and being a 'revenge' person is not going to get you there.
This relationship didn't work out. Learn from it and move on and don't repeat the same mistakes with the next one.
2006-12-09 05:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I am in the same boat. I have not had sex or a bf in years because of it. I have had that feeling so many times over so many men. Allyou can do is move on, try to pick a really NICE guy next time. The faster you get a new man the better you will feel and you will forget faster.
2006-12-09 05:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 1 need to stop worrying about what others think. If you are hurt by these issues then they are valid. Write done what you feel this person did wrong. Then write down how you played a role in those wrong doings. Forgive him, forgive yourself and move on. By harboring these desires to make him feel bad you are in essence making yourself feel bad and he still has power over you. You are the only one that should be able to control your emotions....
2006-12-09 05:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by Beth J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go to counseling. You are a very unhappy person and should not continue to be miserable and make everyone around you miserable too. Look for help. Talk to someone. The problem is not your mates, it's you. You need to find happiness and peace within yourself. Or you are never going to be happy with anyone.
2006-12-09 05:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with him.
He doesn't know what is going on in your head unless you tell him what's wrong. If you're feeling unimportant, then you need to let him know exactly what's going on. Don't just keep it inside and let it fester.
This is the beauty of communication in a relationship. Without it and the relationship IS going to crumble.
So talk to him and have a heart-to-heart. Don't get overly emotional, and don't accuse. Most of all LISTEN to him.
2006-12-09 05:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you despise him, it's time to get out. There's probably no saving the relationship.
But if you want to try, you have to get it ALL out in the open with a third, objective party to mediate.
The question is: Do you want to fight for your relationship, or do you want to move on?
2006-12-09 05:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing as an unresolved issue !
you have to deal with your problem and i think give him some of the same medicine he is giving you make him feel all the bad things you are feeling and then he will see if its a problem or not
2006-12-09 05:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by memo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AH I'm sorry baby, just move on the more energy you put into it the more it will consume you don't let that happen. Also don't give him the satifaction of knowing that he has you feeling that way. GOOD LUCK
2006-12-09 05:39:13 · answer #10 · answered by Great one 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋