ok, so i've been with my boyfriend for a short while. just the other day, he said he had to tell me something. what he told me was that he just had a baby. i couldn't be mad at him under the given circumstances, the only thing that i could be mad about is that she was born on the 2nd and i found out on the 5th. so that isn't the problem. if i want to be with him, my only choice is to deal with it. but there are so many things up in the air. i don't want to seem selfish, because he is more shocked than i am, and he has no other choice but to deal with it. i don't know if i should worry about the baby's mother, even though she is engaged ( but under the circumstances that she had the baby, she can't be trusted). i can't be jealous. i want him to be a part of the baby's life. i'm still just trying to deal with the shock of everything. i feel like i'm being left in the dark, though. if he is with the baby, he ignores my calls and texts. all he has to say is that he is busy. i feel like he was always too busy and i was not very much of a priority before, so where will i fit in now? i'm confused and still not sure how i'm supposed to feel. and i don't want to tell him all this so soon, because i don't want to seem selfish or stress him out even more. what should i do?
2006-12-09 05:14:25 · 5 answers · asked by Miss Lovely Candi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear Candice Q,
Wow, you certainly do have legit concerns. I hope just you simply venting your feelings through Yahoo Answers has helped you feel a little better to get this off your chest. I am listening and so are your other friends here. You seem to have a kind caring heart and a sensible way of expressing your feelings. I trust, in due time, you will come up with solutions to help yourself understand why he says he is busy. In due time, you will know when the right time is and the right words to say to him to discuss your concerns. You are doing good by giving it time...Time heals all things. If you truly feel you love this guy and he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with...continue doing what you are doing, you will be OK. Bless you Candice.
2006-12-09 05:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mamma Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. Yes, he should put the baby first and be a part of it's life. If he won't answer his phone when he's with the baby, I would be very suspicious. Unless you're purposely calling when you know he's over there, just because you're insecure. Sounds like too much baggage for a new relationship. I'd think twice before continuing this relationship.
2006-12-09 13:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The shock of being a daddy is probably still hitting him hard, give it a little time he should calm down. But if not then something might be going on with him and his ex girl. Also tell him that when he's with the baby that he should answer your call because that makes him look guilty of something.
p.s your picture is so DAMN CUTE
2006-12-09 13:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Great one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are considering pursuing your relationship with him, you need to sit down and discuss it in whole with him. Let him know your fears and concerns and let him know its OK for him to be with the child but be considerate of your feelings and tell you when he is busy and not just ignore you. Openness with each other is the only way to make it work provided that this relationship is what he wants.
2006-12-09 13:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by imokey_61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wuld just dump him and forget bout it and move on
2006-12-09 13:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mannie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋