I always treat women with respect and pay for all when on a date, I listen and remember birthdays anniversaries etc for all my female friends but never seem to make a romantic connection. I am a genuine guy and not a lad who only thinks of beer and fooball.
2006-12-09 05:09:15 · 17 answers · asked by Andrew R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's nothing wrong with being a thoughtful, respectful guy, but giving women too much attention when you have a romantic interest in them can backfire. There are a few possible reasons why things are not going in your favor:
1) You might seem too needy. She could interpreting your displays of chivalry as overcompensation for a lack of self-confidence.
2) You might be acting too nice. Most people have a bit of an edge underneath, and if you want to get to know a girl completely, you have to take down your mask of politeness so she feels comfortable with taking down hers.
3) You might seem too available. Men (and women) are more attractive when there's a sense that other people might be interested in them. Get to know several different women at once. Believe me, they can sense when your attention is divided. A little jealousy can work wonders.
4) Maybe you are, in fact, good friend material. It's not always a bad thing to be liked as a friend and to have a non-romantic social life, too. Ask your female friends to set you up with their single friends.
There you go, some things I've learned over the years. Good luck.
2006-12-09 05:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know many "nice guys" but the truth is alot of them come across as mommas boys- like they cant do things on their own, they need a woman to tell them what to do, or they arent very smart. both of my boyfriends were like this and they made bad decisions about everything- its just that they seemed all over uneducated- its like they used the "nice guy" image to get a girl to buy into their deal- without showing real confidence. It was if they were covering up for insecurities, bad looks etc. Girls can see this too. If I were you- jsut be confident friendly and fun, dont always pay open the door etc... and then once you really love a girl, bring out the caring niceness to show that its exclusivly for her.. otherwise just be yourself and dont worry about being nice or perfect etc. Just have fun. Dont go overboard to the extreeme though and start drinking beer, watching football, acting cocky either, cause those guys are a huge turnoff to alot of women, just be genuine and have fun! Dont worry about putting on a face and being nice etc- that will only lead you into a pity trap, "But I have done alll this work!?!?" - it wont help your self esteem by far- if anything forget about being nice and helpful for now and focus on flirting and establishing friendships- make sure you have fun too! dont worry you'll be fine.
2006-12-09 05:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by katie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I, too, am an fairly jealous human being. i have been married to my husband for 3 years, been mutually for 4 years. Your courting is new, only slightly a week previous so i imagine this is too early to assert you "love" him already. you're in what they call the doggy love degree, you're infatuated with him. not attempting to be rude, only my conception. i imagine the perfect suggestion you could ever provide is.... in case you think him then there might want to not be an difficulty. If he provides you a reason to be jealous or believe he's not being honest to you in a courting then that is time to bypass on
2016-11-30 08:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad to say but you may be to nice. It sucks that girls do that to men, because it makes it hard for men to actually be themselves at times. Keep being yourself that is numero uno! Keep up your self esteem and confidence. Do not try to be something your not. Don't try to be a boyfriend to women how are your friends already. Be social, let the word out that you are a good person in general and let the woman come to you.
2006-12-09 05:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by VEGAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried making them laugh? An original and funny joke usually makes a woman want to be around a guy more. Another one is when the two of you can have great conversations and be talking everyday and you know where that leads. Good luck.
2006-12-09 05:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should relax and try to suprise them once in a while. You sound a bit boring try something new. Even if you make a mess and make yourself look like a fool they will notice you more!!
2006-12-09 05:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by wizz1888 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your trying too hard women dont need a knight in shineing armour you sound like a nice guy when you meet the right one she'll want to pay for things aswell
2006-12-09 05:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by gunner n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in order for a girl to like you, you have to have the right combination of asshole and nice guy. girls like things they can't have and things that are bad for them. of course you want to be yourself and you want her to fall in love with YOU, not who you are trying to be. but all im saying is you should change a little, dont buy a harley, a leather jacket and start smoking.
2006-12-09 05:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by frenchmanonthesilvermountain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're too slow making the first move
jump in with both feet
what have you got to loose?
if they turn ya down you are still single
no change there then
don't let it get to the "i don't want to loose a good friend" stage
2006-12-09 05:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by benji 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask the question of life my friend!...just keep trying and the right one will come along or she may well be under your nose right now.
2006-12-09 05:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋