a friend of mine recently broke up with her boyfriend.
they've been going out for the past two years, were in love, however they broke up and got back together many times. He's cheated on her before (while intoxicated), however she always took him back.
Now they've broken up for good (he broke up with her) and he keeps telling her "I want to want to love u and be with you" and while she's trying to get over him, he isn't letting her.
What should I say to her when she talks to me about it?
(btw we are juniors in high school, this isn't like THAT serious of a relationship)
2006-12-09 04:22:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell her to forget that guy.it is not worth it to lead her life like this just because of a selfish guy.if he doesn't let her, just don't care about what the guy says anymore,and ask him to give up
2006-12-09 04:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being with someone for so long, you miss the closeness you had. She knows him well and just used to everything. It's like going threw a divorce. For awhile after the divorce you still want them. You can't help yourself, we're built that way. It's gonna take some time. Help her to not be so readly available to him. The more you bring him up and put him down, the more she's gonna want to defend him, she may harbor some guilt over his cheating. It's all really complicated but part of separation. It's gonna take time for her to get over him. But, your feelings toward him are just that, your feelings. He's scared too, and when he's feeling horny or lonely he's gonna come crawling to her too. That is, until he meets someone else that will put up with his bullshit. So, just listen to her and when you have something to say about it, put it to her in a question. Example, when she crys about his cheating on her, ask her, why do you think he does that? Hope this helps you.
2006-12-09 12:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by corina381 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let here distraction become your distraction. You are young people in the early stages of your lives. Their may be many I think i am inlove moments but, that is not the most important thing. juniors in high school do not need a study mate your to young and certain thing you are not equipted to handle. stick to your studies educate yourselves spend most of your time planing your future. this is for your friend get over him move on separate yourself hes a loser already if he has no self control. Lose him now are you will be sorry later.
2006-12-09 12:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by beatrice s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that the statistics say that 22 out of 100 people say that they married their high school sweet hearts. but only five of them lasted. if this has no impact, then let her learn the lesson herself. i am having to do that with my friend too. it sux hearing the same old re-runs about her and that stupid guy that she thinks is great. all the while you can clear as day see that there is nothing so special about him tht makes it worth all of this
2006-12-09 12:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by summer girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her friend so you should be as positive as possible. Truthfully though, if you don't want to hear anymore about him then tell her you don't, but say it nicely. With all the drama you don't really need to add her mess to your life.
2006-12-09 12:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by tlwren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweehearth, your friend has too much drama for someone that young. Tell your drama queen of a friend that she is becoming his ***** or "old reliable". You as a friend have a responsiblity to care for your friend. Do you want your friend to be called "old reliable" around campus????
2006-12-09 12:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋