Does he REALLY love me???
His still Married and separated with 3 kids. His around 38, And he says he needs time to sort himself out, I love him but need him to make more effort although he says he loves me too and I can feel it sometimes and we have a strong connection. I am 25. I dont mind his kids at all and would never take their mothers place. I am totally in love but terrified his not that serious and that He just says he loves me.
He sometimes says his busy and wont always call when he says and I cant get him to spend nights with me.
We have agreed to be just friends and thats it but every time i see him we end up kissing passionately. I wish i could let go or know what to do. I guess im just crazy!
2006-12-09 04:14:53 · 18 answers · asked by Kittykat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He says he doesnt love his wife anymore and he has told her. They dont live together she only visits the kids.
I have been dating other guys, He knows, but his still calling me and i find it hard. He says he'd rather be my friend then to lose me completely.
2006-12-09 04:16:08 · update #1
Tell him to make his mind up. Either he wants to be with you or not. He can't say he does because he knows that your dating and says no when your single. Your still young. I would forget about him. Tell him to stop calling you. Move on with her life. You will find a great guy that you care about more then this one. Someone who doesn't have any kids. And someone that you can have a really future with. It sounds like this guy is only going to get worse. Really think about this he has three kids. None of them are yours. Will he really ever have kids with you. And the ex will always be there no mater what. It would be different if you both had kids and was doing it together. But this is a one way road. But the choice is up to you. Just really think about it. Good Luck.
2006-12-09 04:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by Hugs and Kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to guess that you end up getting passionate because he likes sex. It's that simple. If he is still married and not divorced, and he says you are just friends, then you are just friends. I'm pretty sure once the divorce is final you will be out too. Just a hunch there, I've seen it a lot. I've done it myself as a matter of fact. Good luck.
2006-12-09 12:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by higg1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you he would not be using you. It sounds like he has trouble with commitment. Of course you end up kissing, he's not thinking with his head. If you have agreed to just be friends, JUST BE FRIENDS. That's what was agreed while you were both thinking right. Don't let your hormones get in the way. Control yourself and your urges and find someone else. You are infatuated and it will take some time to get over him but you must. He is asking you to let him go by asking you to just be friends.
2006-12-09 12:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by fuzzlenose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, well.... id just give him some time to think things out, if he just wants to be friends with you, then the "passionate kisses" would need to stop. If you can stop from kissing him and if you can stop him from kissing you, and he doesnt like that you guys arent doing that anymore, maybe he'll change his mind about "just being friends", and then maybe he will think about being a little more than friends... Well good luck with that, hoping the best for you!!
2006-12-09 12:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know everything about this relationship does not feel right to you, or you would not question it. You did get 2 really good answers that make sense and i agree with. Blooeyes, and higg1966 are telling you what you already know. I'm asking that you give yourself some credit and get out with your dignity.
2006-12-09 12:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by ericpaulette2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is just not willing to commit. If this is the case, you need to find another guy that is deserving of you. Stop answering his calls because that will just draw you back to him and you will never be able to leave this cycle.
2006-12-09 12:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Green thumb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is he still married if he's serious about you?
Tell him that you don't want anything to do with him until his divorce is finalized, that's the only way you'll ever know he's serious about you.
Good luck, and if it doesn't work out I assure you that you'll find somebody who truly deserves you.
2006-12-09 12:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by Badstudent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is no.
You are a cliche....and are making a fool of yoruself. He just wants you for sex. He does not love you but will tell you what you want to hear so he can use you.
Get some sense. Your gut is telling you no. Listen to it. Respect yourself.
2006-12-09 12:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by Blooeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not date a guy who is still married! Danger! Danger!
2006-12-09 12:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he still has feelings for his wife,dont go anywhere near him till he resolves this or you/ll just get hurt,find a single guy whos only interest is you!you deserve to be special to someone!
GOODLUCK!
2006-12-09 12:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋