I'm very sexual...but why?

Question

THOSE WHO SAY THIS IS "SICK" AND SHOULDN'T BE ASKED CAN PLEASE LEAVE. THIS IS A DILEMMA FOR ME.
At a young age, I liked to feel my body. When I was about 10, I lost my virginity in an unusual manner (w/o a man or woman).
When I was about 8, my parents and I had to share a room and their constant sex would wake me up at night, and they would watch dirty movies when they thought I was sleeping. My dad is a recovering porn addict and my mom has every sex toy known to man in her night table (sis needed aspirins and she kept some in there, so I got a peek). Not to mention all the sex in music and movies these days. I'm 16 and very sexual. I love to hang with older guys cause no guys my age wanna have sex or a stable relationship. I even have a 22 year old BF. We don't have sex cause he wants to wait til I'm legal though, but its KILLING me sometimes.
I'm bipolar and so freakishly in love with sex. Could the things in my past be the cause of my sex yearn?
Is there any way to stop this?

I apologize for this question, but its seriously killing me, especially in a relationship where I know we can't have sex yet, but I want him sooo bad.
This has destroyed my trust with my parents cause I sneak out at night and I get so irritated when someone brings up the fact that I shouldn't be dating yet.
In one sense, I know I should stop, but in another, I don't feel like I can.

Answer 1

OK, first of all. relax, take a deeeeep breath and listen up. You are obviously an intelligent young women and you were exposed to overt sexual behaviour at a very young age. There is a good chance that you might be using sex as a substitute for love, normalcy, and attention.
You have to make sure that you speak to a professional about it, get to the root of the problem so that sex will become a great part of your life, not the main focus of it! The world is filled with so many things that you can do and learn and become, it's not your fault, but it is affecting your life and taking control of you. Enjoy your youth, the time will arrive soon enough for you and your partner to have a wonderful fulfilling sexual experience, but you must address the emotional needs that you seem to be lacking.
Good luck my darling, don't despair! Get some help. you should not be handling this by yourself!

Answer 2

you need to seek counseling, Definitely its not normal for parents to be having sex while their children are in the room. If you were able to listen to those movies at a young age, that explains how you are today. You need to get yourself a hobby so you will not focus on sex all the time. If you are out of shape I suggest begin exercising every time you feel horny. You need to get yourself a boyfriend that is your age if you want to have sex because its risky nowadays for an older man to have sex with an underage girl. If you care about him then you need to refrain.

Answer 3

You need some councilling. I'm sure your upbringing has alot to do with this. Don't get me wrong - sex is a good thing, when in a mature, responsible relationship. There is a problem when it's all you can think of. Speak to a professional. You're already in trouble when you're dating older men, and you'll still a teen. Get some help - now.

Answer 4

Did you just say no 16 year old guys want to have sex? Yes they do! Anyway, what your parents did was totally wrong. Good for your boyfriend, you can see he totally respects you. Your past is definitly the problem. Maybe you should talk to a therapist, get their outlook on your yearning. Maybe you, your parents, and your boyfriend should all go talk to someone together.

Answer 5

your need for sex can be an effect of the environment you grew up in and its probably also in your genes. as long as you are careful and take precautions i wouldn't worry about it too much. by the way, it sounds like you have a good boyfriend if he is willing to wait to have sex with. dont push the issue with him because he IS doing the right thing.

Answer 6

It sounds like your past contributes A LOT to how you are feeling right now. If you have the money and the time, I would think of seeing a therapist to talk about your feelings and try to come up with a solution.

Answer 7

If you are like me and many others, I would say no. For some of us, sex is an insatiable urge, for others, practically non-existant. Sex drives differ from person to person. There is nothing wrong with having a high one, just when you abuse your body. Many people with high sex drives run around and sleep with whoever, and they become pieces of meat, rather than human beings with thoughts.

So my advice to you, is, accept your body and its wants, just keep your control, and you will be alright.

Answer 8

i don't think there's anything wrong with liking sex and having a high sex-drive.


however, it sounds like in your case it may be a little more than that. i would be careful if i were you and you might possibly want to talk to someone about it. if it's more of a compulsion for you, you could find yourself in someone riskyand possibly dangerous situations because of it.

good luck,

T

Answer 9

I'm sorry to annouce you that it's very normal to have sexual desire. Every days I think about it, even though I'm single. So I must do it with myself. But I think you learned what sex was earlier than most people. But don't worry, it's normal, you're normal. If you're not, I'm not, and every other girls/boys aren't normal. But you still can play with yourself waiting 2 more years that your BF wants to touch you. :)

Answer 10

You should sex a therapist about your issues. You come from a very dysfunctional family. Good Luck :-)