I'm asking b/c my uncle is in the dying process and my grandmother needs help!! I know I just need to be there for her, but was wondering if there's anything else I should say or do that might help
2006-12-09 03:44:17 · 14 answers · asked by nursgrad07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There isn't anything anyone can say or do. All though it is nice to be there and help her through these tough times. Offer to clean house for her, cook, take her out somewhere, even if it's just for a walk, or drive. The grieving process never stops. I know from experience. The only thing that helps is time.After a while it does get easier.
2006-12-09 03:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
grab the family album and go though it with grandma, get her to tell stories behind the pictures. you could get some picture frames , see if she would like to put any pictures in. Or you could go though your self and make a album of your uncles life.
I very sorry for your lost. I wish I could tell you more, but everybody deals with just a great loss very different. You could add some the cards and flowers to the album. the new paper notice. but not much of those. Make sure there is food in the house, simple finger food and thing to drink. Take for out side walks, let her talk, do a lot of listening. Don't forget to hug her or say I love you grandma as often as you can.
God bless your family
2006-12-09 04:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lost a cousin a few years ago. She was only I think 6 weeks old. She died because she was born too soon. What I do is that when somebody dies, we have a moment of silence and we go over to the grave and put down of what we can remember about her. Then we pray that she can get in a better place.
2006-12-09 03:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by youpinkpoodle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your grandmother starts talking of doing irrational things (under the circumstances), it's best to let her greive in whatever way "works for her". If she's open to the idea of talking to a therapist or greif counselor, then she should come out fine.
But I can say this...one of the worst things you can do to a greiving person is question the manner in which they greive...some people will do this because YOUR greif somehow makes THEM uncomfortable.....DON'T GO THERE...NOT UNLESS SHE'S TALKING SUICIDE OR OF INFLICTING HARM TO HERSELF. When my mom died, that was one thing that really started to get me pissed off. So, when my stepson died in a car accident 2 years ago at 19, I made DAMN sure I wasn't doing that to my wife. It can be a VERY long process...it's still ongoing today.
Two words---EMPATHY and PATIENCE---those are the ONLY "keys" I know of.
2006-12-09 03:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lost a child many years ago , I dont think you can find any magic words to help anyone through this hard time. The only thing that is going to heal those wounds is time...time changes everything .
2006-12-09 04:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my daughter. Murdered. There is no greater hurt. It is unnatural for a mother to bury a child. So you fill the hole in your heart with memories. Good and bad. Because that is all you have. Think of the joy of his/her birth, the choosing of the name. Think of all the special quirky things about the child. And your grandmother can give thanks that she will be there at the end. Stay close to her yet give her space. Comfort her yet let her heal.
2006-12-09 04:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
luckily - i've got been SPARED the lack of any of my 4 little ones - or any of my 6 grandchildren. optimistically - i will predecease all of them - leaving them with some fond techniques - interior the the terrific option order of activities. regrettably - life is such that many a youthful one dies - out of order, out of time - leaving older ones lots bereft, grievously at a loss. yet over the years - one has to take it as a reality of life - many older and youthful than we are long gone previous the curtain - to everywhere we would desire to ALL stick to - faster or later. the guy referred to as Jesus is recorded as asserting: Weep extra for the residing than the lifeless. Which replaced into clever- and genuine. The lifeless are previous the curtain - and that's people who stay and grieve we would desire to weep for, empathise with. extremely those - like your mom - who can no longer even bear to speak approximately this variety of loss.
2016-10-14 08:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being there for her is the best possible thing you could do for her. Words may comfort her and even in the long run may really help her. Just make alot of human contact with her we are very tactile creatures we don't enough pf it.
2006-12-09 03:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by cellomaticus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting our your emotions through journal writing helped me. I wasn't the type to sit around and tell others about how my heart was tearing apart...so I just wrote out my feelings when I was in the privacy of my home.
But people helped me when they showed that they cared. When they brought photos, and small things that brought back memories. When they were just there and it was silent, it made me feel better to know that I had their support.
2006-12-09 03:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by Rewind 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i lost two sons and that was a difficult time for me. i went to church and they prayed alot for me. just be there for her and hold her up with your love and presence. love can make a big difference to someone grieving. pray for her and take her shopping and do things with her to help her get her mind off of the worry and hurt. it sounds like she is a very lucky woman to have you in her life.
2006-12-09 03:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋